What Would My Shrink Say?

Vicarious Trauma

02 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Todd and Nick discuss the concept of vicarious trauma.

Dealing with Narcissists

25 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss how to deal with narcissists (or not...)

Imposter Syndrome

18 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Todd and Nick tackle imposter syndrome.

Personal Values

11 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Todd and Nick discuss personal values: what they are and why they matter.

Can You Control Your Thoughts?

04 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Todd and Nick discuss the extent to which we can (and can't) control our own thoughts.

Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior

28 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and todd discuss obsessive-compulsive behavior.

Hyper-Responsibility

21 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss hyper-responsibility.

Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts

14 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss unwanted intrusive thoughts—what they are, how they work, and how to handle them well.

Self-Acceptance

07 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss self-acceptance.

Setting Healthy Boundaries

31 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd talk about how to set healthy boundaries.

How to Examine Failures in a Useful Way

24 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss how to look at your failures and mistakes in a helpful way.

Do We Really Need Therapy Anymore?

17 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss whether or not therapy is really necessary anymore given the many resources and tools available online.

How to Be More Empathetic

10 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss empathy—what it is and how to be better at it.

Am I Passing on My Anxiety to My Kids?

03 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss many parent's fear of passing on their own anxiety to their children.

Self-Sabotage

26 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss Self-Sabotage, including what it is, why we do it, and how to stop.

Why We Search for Impossible Answers

19 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss why we tend to search for impossible answers.

How to Be More Vulnerable

12 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss emotional vulnerability.

Jealousy

05 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the psychology of jealousy.

Chronic Relationship Worry

29 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss chronic relationship worry.

Can You Teach Yourself to Be Curious?

22 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the psychology behind curiosity and whether you can teach yourself to be more curious.

Is 'Think Positive' Good advice?

15 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss whether or not "think positive" is good advice.

Managing Unrealistic Expectations

08 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd talk about how to manage unrealistic expectations.

Online Therapy

01 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the benefits and downsides of online therapy.

The Psychology of Grumpiness

24 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the psychology of grumpiness.

The Psychology of FOMO (Fear of Missing Out)

17 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the strange psychology of FOMO (Fear of Missing Out).

The Dangers of Mind Reading

10 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the dangers of mind reading.

Forgiving Yourself After Mistakes

03 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd tackle a reader question about how to forgive yourself after repeated mistakes.

The Psychology of Loneliness

27 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the psychology of loneliness.

How to Manage Your Coronavirus Anxiety

20 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss practical tips for managing anxiety related to the coronavirus / covid-19 outbreak.

Healthy Social Media Use

13 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick tries to convince Todd that social media isn't completely evil by explaining his 3 Rules for Healthy Social Media Use.

Is Competitiveness Healthy?

06 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd trade blows over the psychology of competitiveness.

Using Emotions for Self-Knowledge

28 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss how we can use our emotions to achieve self-knowledge.

Why Do Some People Hate Themselves?

21 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss self-hatred.

Mood Dependency

14 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the idea of mood dependency—basing decisions on how we feel rather than our values.

Letting Go of Resentment

07 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss practical tips for actually letting go of resentment.

The Benefits of Rituals

31 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd talk about why personal rituals are beneficial.

Extreme Self-Judgment

24 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss extreme self-judgment.

My Kid's Smoking Weed

17 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss how to handle a child who's smoking weed.

Worry About Our Clients

10 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the extent to which they do or do not worry about their clients outside of therapy.

Resentment

03 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the psychology of resentment.

Hurt Feelings

27 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the psychology of hurt feelings.

Grief and Grieving Well

20 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss grief and what it means to grieve well.

Conditions for Change

13 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the conditions that facilitate genuine change.

Catastrophizing

06 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd chat catastrophizing.

Procrastination

02 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the psychology of procrastination.

News Anxiety

22 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss News Anxiety.

Where Does Confidence Come From?

15 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd try to sort out the true source of confidence.

Psychological people watching

08 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss all the amazingly insightful things we (don't) read into people while we're people watching.

Therapy is not done to you.

04 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the biggest myth about how therapy works.

The Productivity Trap

25 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the productivity trap.

So you want to be a therapist...

18 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss what it's really like being a therapist, what it takes to get there, and how to think about therapy as a possible career.

Confidentiality in Therapy

11 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss confidentiality in therapy.

Self-Honesty

04 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss self-honesty.

Our Favorite Parts of Therapy

02 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd talk about their favorite parts of therapy.

Self-care

20 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd talk about self-care.

Anger Management

14 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss anger management.

Mid-life Crisis

06 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the mid-life crisis.

Self-Sabotage

30 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss self-sabotage.

Compromise in Relationships

23 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss what healthy compromise in relationships looks like.

Symptoms vs Deeper Issues

16 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the complicated relationship between symptoms and "deeper issues."

Listening to People's Problems

26 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss whether or not it's frustrating to listen to people's problems all day long.

Fake Guilt

19 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the concept of "Fake Guilt."

Mental Health Habits

12 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss their personal mental health habits

Confrontation & Conflict

05 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss confrontation & conflict

Advice Giving

28 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss Advice Giving and the best advice​ we've ever received.

Pain vs Suffering

21 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the distinction between pain and suffering and why it matters for mental health.

Resentment & Forgiveness

14 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd talk about the psychology of resentment and forgiveness.

Self-awareness

07 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss self-awareness—what it is and whether or not you can get more of it.

Self-Esteem vs Self-Efficacy

31 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd almost disagree about Self-Esteem and Self-Efficacy.

Perfectionism

24 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd talk about perfectionism.

Healthy Conflict in Relationship​s

17 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss what healthy conflict in a relationship looks like.

Depression 101

10 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd talk depression basics.

Expectations in Relationships

03 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the pitfalls of rigid expectations​ in relationships.

Stress Management

26 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss stress management.

Mindfulness

19 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd talk mindfulness.

Insomnia

12 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss Insomnia.

What Is Trauma?

06 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss Trauma.

Men and Depression with Dr. Jonas Horwitz

29 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd talk with Dr. Jonas Horwitz about men and depression.

Personal Insight

22 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss personal insight.

Loneliness

15 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss loneliness.

Comparison

08 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss unhealthy comparisons.

Social Media

01 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd talk social media and mental health

Self-Talk (Ep 48)

22 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss Self-Talk.

Guilt (Ep 47)

15 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss guilt and some common misconceptions about it.

Assertiveness Part 4: Obstacles (Ep 46)

08 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd round out the series on assertiveness by discussing common obstacles to becoming more assertive.

Assertiveness Part 3: Saying No (Ep 45)

01 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In the third part of our series on assertiveness, we discuss how to how to protect our values by learning to say no more effectively.

Assertiveness Part 2: Approach (Ep 44)

25 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In the second part of our series on assertiveness we discuss how to assertively go after what's truly important, inclusing asking for what we want in ...

Assertiveness Part 1: Values (Ep 43)

18 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd kick of a series of episodes on assertiveness with a discussion of why clarifying your values is key to becoming more assertive.

Do Shrinks Overthink Everything? (Ep 42)

11 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd breakdown a listener question about whether therapists tend to overthink things.

New Year's Resolutions (Ep 41)

04 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd argue about New Year's resolutions.

Why Hobbies are Important for Mental Health (Ep 40)

28 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss why and how hobbies are important for our mental health.

Friendships and Mental Health (Ep 39)

21 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the impact of friendships on mental health.

Disappointment with Our Own Profession (Ep 38)

14 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss the many ways they've been disillusioned since becoming psychologists.

Tips for Handling Holiday Stress (Ep 37)

07 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss some tips for how to handle the stress of the holidays.

When Therapists Struggle Like Their Clients (Ep 36)

30 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss how therapists often struggle in the same ways their clients do.

When Therapists Struggle Like Their Clients (Ep 35)

24 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss how the struggle with many of the same things their clients do.

What Is Assertiveness? (Ep 34)

16 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss Assertiveness—What it is, exactly, and why it matters. A lot.

When Therapy Gets Political (Ep 33)

09 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd discuss what happens when politics enters a therapy session.

How to Know if Therapy Is Actually Working (Ep 32)

02 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd talk about how to know if you're actually making progress in therapy or not.

One Thing to Improve Mental Health (Ep 31)

26 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Nick and Todd take on the following question: If you could only offer one piece of advice for how people could improve their mental health, what would...