Why Do I…?
Episodes
Why Do We Stay in Relationships That Are Killing Us? Tom's Reflection
11 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
We're told staying is loyalty. So we hold on, hoping things will improve. Tell ourselves "it's not that bad." But after my full conv...
Why Do I Feel So Insecure In My Relationships...? Dr. Amir Levine
04 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Dr. Amir Levine is a psychiatrist, neuroscientist, and bestselling author of Attached - the book that became the internet's go-to guide for unders...
Tom's Reflection: Why Do We Fear Getting Older?
27 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
We’re told getting older means losing value.So we chase youth like it can save us.Tell ourselves we’re “still young.”But after my full convers...
Why Do I Fear Ageing...? With Poorna Bell
20 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
We're told that aging is something to dread. That it means slowing down. Becoming invisible. Losing your edge.So instead… we obsess over looking...
Tom's Reflection: Why Am I Craving Connection...?
13 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
We’re told needing people is weak.So we handle everything on our own.Tell ourselves we’re “fine”.But I’ve realised something recently…Conn...
Toms Reflection: Why Am I Craving Connection...?
13 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
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Tom’s Reflection: I Was Proud Of Never Getting Angry… Until I Realised This
06 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
We’re told anger is a bad thing.So a lot of us just… stop feeling it.Or at least, we think we do.After my conversation with Sam Parker, I realised...
Why Do I Repress My Anger...? With Sam Parker
30 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
We’re taught that anger is something to avoid.That it’s dangerous.Unattractive.Something that pushes people away.So instead… we suppress it. We ...
Why Sex Alone Won’t Fix Your Relationship
23 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
We grow up believing that a good relationship means good sex.That if you’re having enough of it…If the chemistry is there…If the spark hasn’t ...
Why Do I Avoid Intimacy With My Partner…? Guest Expert - Henika Patel
16 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
We grow up believing connection should just… happen.That if you love someone enoughIf the relationship is right enoughIf you’re close enough…Tha...
Are You Living Your Life… Or Your Parents’ Story?
09 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
After my conversation with Julius Cowdrey about parental behaviour and generational patterns, something stayed with me long after the microphones were...
Why Do I Make The Same Mistakes My Parents Did...?
02 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
We grow up thinking our parents are just… parents.The safe one.The distant one.The provider.The peacemaker.The one who never talks about feelings.Bu...
The Green Flag Breakup: When Nothing’s Wrong… But It’s Not Right
23 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
After my conversation with Sasha Pallari about breakups that don’t make sense on paper, I found myself sitting with something deeper…What happens ...
The Reality of Dating Someone in Addiction...
21 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
If someone sees you.Understands you.Holds you.Chooses you.That’s enough… right?But what happens when the person who makes you feel the most seen y...
Why Do I Fall For The Wrong People...? with Sasha Pallari
16 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
We grow up thinking love is supposed to feel a certain way...Butterflies.Intensity.Stability.Someone choosing you.But what happens when you’ve had t...
What To Expect In Season 2!
15 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
‘Why Do I…?’ is a podcast about the patterns we keep falling into in our relationships.The ones we do not always talk about.The ones we sometime...
Confronting Relationship Misunderstandings - Tom's Tips #10
18 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In our final short-form episode of Season 1, we reflect on a powerful conversation with LaLaLaLetMeExplain about why men blame women. This episode hit...
Do Men Expect Sex On The First Date? Best Moment #10
15 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this powerful clip from the full episode with lalalaletmeexplain, we dive into the complex dynamics of sex on the first date. From male validation ...
Why Do Men Blame Women? #10 - Lalalaletmeexplain
11 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Why Do Men, we're joined again by LaLaLaLetMeExplain to talk about why some men blame women for their pain, dating struggles, or di...
The Fear Behind the First Move! - Tom's Tips #9
04 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this solo episode, I reflect on my conversation with Lucy Rout from Haystack Dating and unpack one of the biggest questions in modern dating: why a...
Why Do Men Say They Want To Meet Someone Organically… But Never Approach Anyone? Best Moment #9
30 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this 5 minute clip - We tackle one of the most frustrating contradictions in modern dating: men say they want to meet someone “organically” but...
Why Do Men Not Approach Women Anymore?! - Lucy Rout #9
27 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Why don’t men approach women anymore? Are dating apps ruining real connection? 👀 In this Episode of Why Do Men, we dive deep with Haystack Dating...
Vulnerability, Inadequacy, and Authentic Connections in Relationships - Tom's Tips #8
06 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Reflection Episode - Revisiting Love Bombing (with Sabrina Zohar)This is a solo reflection on our most popular episode yet - the one with Sabrina Zoha...
How to Spot and Stop Love Bombing! - Best Moment #8
02 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this short clip - Sabrina breaks down how to spot love bombing vs real connection and why setting boundaries early is the fastest way to see someon...
Why Do Men Love Bomb? Sabrina Zohar #8
30 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode we are joined by dating and relationship coach Sabrina Zohar to unpack the psychology behind love bombing!We run through why some p...
Redefining Masculinity: Embracing Vulnerability and Emotional Expression in Men - Tom's Tips #7
16 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this 10-minute reflection episode, I unpack my powerful conversation with resilience coach Josh Connolly on why so many men suppress their emotions...
Why Football Is A Place Where Men Feel Safe! Best Moment #7
13 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this powerful moment from our full episode with Josh Connolly, we dive into why football matches have become one of the only socially accepted spac...
Why Do Men Suppress Emotions? Josh Connolly #7
09 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m joined by Josh Connolly - resilience coach, breathwork expert, and author of It’s Them, Not You.We chat about emotional suppr...
Navigating Commitment and Connection in Today's World - Tom's Tips #6
02 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this solo episode of Why Do Men, we unpack the fear of commitment...Why do so many men struggle with it and where does it really come from?I reflec...
How to Avoid Casual Dating Pitfalls - Best Moment #6
29 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Tom and guest David explore how modern dating has made men more hesitant to commit. David shares why asking clear, open questions ear...
Why Do Men Fear Commitment? - David Chambers #6
25 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
So Why Do Men Fear Commitment?In this episode of Why Do Men, we explore why many men fear commitment, with special guest David Chambers, a male relati...
Facing the Fear of Rejection! Toms Tips #5
18 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Why Rejection Hurts (Especially for Men)In this reflection episode, we break down why rejection cuts deep - from childhood wounds to ghosting - and ho...
Building Confidence and Overcoming Rejection - Best Moment #5
15 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Dating, Stress & the Power of Being MisunderstoodDating can be an emotional rollercoaster - but what if the key to navigating it is regulating eve...
Why Do Men Struggle With Rejection? Anna Mathur #5
11 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Why Do Men Fear Rejection? | With Psychotherapist Anna Mathur This week on Why Do Men, we’re diving into one of the most common but least talked abo...
Exploring Jealousy in Gender Dynamics & Recognising Emotional Abuse - Tom's Tips #4
04 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this reflection episode, I unpack my powerful conversation with psychologist Dr. Mark Rackley on jealousy and emotional abuse. From the roots of je...
Can Perfectionism Ruin Romantic Relationships? Best Moment #4
01 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Dr. Mark Rackley, an expert in male mental health and emotional intelligence. In this clip we discuss how perfectionism can ruin relationships!If you ...
Why Do Men Get Jealous? - Dr Mark Rackley #4
28 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Dr. Mark Rackley, an expert in male mental health and emotional intelligence. In this episode we discuss jealousy, We unpack its roots in childhood...
The Emotional and Psychological Maze of Cheating - Tom's Tips #3
21 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What drives men to cheat, and is it ever more than just the thrill of the forbidden? Our insightful discussion with Claira Hermet unravels the intrica...
The Art of Communication in Relationships! Best Moment #3
18 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The Art of Communication in RelationshipsWhats everyones view on this? For us this is healthy, but we would love to hear your thoughts below on whethe...
Why Do Men Cheat? - Claira Hermet #3
14 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Why Do Men Cheat? Joining me for this conversation today is Claira Hermet! Claira Hermet, a self-love and confidence coach, joins us to explore infide...
What To Do If You Get Ghosted! Tom’s Tips #2
07 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Here are the key takeaways from the Lala conversation & my point of view on what to do if you get ghosted!🔥 Check Out Some Of My Favourite Bits...
The Craziest Ghosting Story I've Ever Heard! Best Moment #2
04 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Our favourite moment from the Lalalaletmeexplain episode!Make sure to check out the full episode.Lalalaletmeexplain is a relationship expert, dating c...
Why Do Men Ghost? - Lalalaletmeexplain #2
28 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Why Do Men, we explore why men play games in relationships, the psychology behind ghosting, love bombing and breadcrumbing... Lalal...
Breaking Down Male Communication in Dating - Tom's Tips #1
21 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Growing up, I was taught that being strong meant staying silent about my feelings. But after an enlightening conversation with Michelle Elman shifted ...
Should You Go To Sleep On An Argument?! Best Moment #1
18 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Our favourite moment from the Michelle Elman Episode! Make sure to check out the full episode.In the first episode of Why Do Men, we dive deep into th...
Why Do Men Struggle To Communicate? - Michelle Elman #1
14 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Why Do Men Struggle to Communicate in Relationships? | Michelle Elman on Emotional Expression, Boundaries & Dating TransparencyMichelle Elman is a...
What To Expect In Season 1!
06 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Releasing on the 14th February!🎙️ Welcome to Why Do Men – The Podcast About Relationships & DatingEver wondered why men do certain things?W...