Wife On The Rocks I Gaslighting, Addiction, Codependency, Al Anon, Alcoholism, Recovery
Episodes
He's FINALLY Ready for Help: What I Wish I Knew BEFORE Rock Bottom
12 Jun 2026
Contributed by Lukas
“My husband finally agreed to get help… What do we do now?” For years you may have prayed for your husband to recognize his alcoholism and addic...
EP 51 Parenting With An Alcoholic: Emtional Outbursts & Protecting Kids
19 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this Listener Q&A episode of Wife on the Rocks, I answer a heartbreaking question many wives silently carry: 👉 “How do I parent and protec...
Bonus Episode: BIG Announcement & Trusting God In Alcoholism AND Recovery
29 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Wondering why there has been a pause in new episodes? Tune in to find out why! God can do more than we ask or imagine and I will explain what that i...
Ep 50 Ever Wonder Why He Drinks More at the Holidays? INTERVIEW: Recovering Alcoholic Explains His Addiction Experience of Christmas Past.
24 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Why does drinking seem to escalate every holiday season — and why does it feel so lonely for the wife watching it happen? In this episode of Wife o...
Ep 49 Has He Stopped “Showing Up” for the Holidays? Guest Interview: Addiction, Alcoholism, Depression, and Anxiety Collide at Christmas
17 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What happens to holidays as alcoholism progresses? In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we share a deeply personal conversation about how alcohol ad...
Ep 48 Struggling to Manage Money In Addiction? Financial Impacts of Alcoholism
03 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you dread the holidays because money feels out of control — and no matter how hard you plan, budget, or prepare, something always sabotages your ...
EP 47: Parenting Alone in an Alcoholic Marriage? Holiday Exhaustion…..You are NOT Alone!
26 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you the only functioning parent in your home during the holidays? Do you carry the entire load—planning, preparing, protecting the kids, managin...
Ep 46 Addiction: The Red Flags and How To Recognize it in a Marriage
19 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you wondering if your husband’s drinking or behavior has crossed the line from “social” to something more serious? Maybe you’ve ignored th...
Ep 45 Gaslighting Is the Fuel That Keeps You Stuck in an Endless Cycle of Addiction: The Secret to Breaking Free!
12 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “How did I get back to this again?” — this episode is for you. That question means you’ve just gone th...
EP 44 Why Addiction Is Always Dysfunctional: 5 Ways to See It Clearly (Even in High-Functioning Times)
05 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When your husband is struggling with alcohol use, but life still looks mostly normal… it can be incredibly confusing. He may be: Holding down a g...
EP 43 Detox & Rehab: How Long Should My Alcoholic Husband Stay?
29 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If your husband is finally getting help for his addiction, you may be wondering: How long should he stay in treatment? 30 days? 60 days? 90 days? Long...
Ep 42 Why Won't He STOP Drinking Alcohol? Doesn't He Love Us? The Truth About The Addicted Brain
22 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever asked yourself, “If he really loved us, why won’t he stop drinking?” You’re not alone. So many Christian wives live in this pai...
Ep 41 Struggling To Communicate in an Alcoholic Marriage? ONE Boundary You Can Set Today
15 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever found yourself drawn into a heated or emotional conversation with your husband after he’s been drinking—only to regret it the next d...
Ep 40 Feel Crazy? Gaslighting: The Basics and How To Spot It Amidst Addiction
08 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever walked away from a conversation with your husband and thought, “Am I crazy?” You’re not. You may be experiencing gaslighting—one...
Ep 39 Quitting Alcohol But NOTHING Has Changed: Is My Alcoholic Husband Really Sober?
01 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Has your husband quit drinking, but the chaos, anger, or dysfunction in your home hasn’t gone away? Many Christian wives find themselves asking: “...
Ep 38 My Alcoholic Husband Doesn't Want Me To Go To Alanon! What Are My Options?
24 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Does your husband push back when you mention Al-Anon—or accuse it of being “husband bashing”? You’re not alone. Many Christian wives long for ...
Ep 37 Codependency and Alcoholism: How To Spot Enabling Patterns That May Be Robbing You Of Peace
17 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you ever unsure if your actions are helping your alcoholic husband—or actually enabling him? Many Christian wives fall into codependent patterns...
EP 36 Monitoring Alcohol Intake? Codependent Behavior 101 And What To Do Instead
10 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When you’re married to an alcoholic, it feels almost impossible not to keep watch over his drinking. Maybe you’ve counted bottles, checked the liq...
Ep 35 Regulating Emotion In The Face Of Gaslighting: Wives Of Alcoholics Guide
03 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When gaslighting leaves you questioning your reality and your worth, it’s easy to spiral into anger, defensiveness, or despair. As wives, we long fo...
EP 34 Waiting For Things To Get Better? 3 Tips To Regulate Your Nervous System When Addiction Impacts Your Home
30 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Living with alcoholism in your marriage can leave you feeling like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. The lies, broken promises, and consta...
Ep 33 Tired of Boundary Battles? Effectively Communicate Boundaries To Your Alcoholic Husband
20 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference between a healthy boundary and one that only sounds right on the surface. Boundaries are like real vs. co...
Ep 32 How Do I Set A Boundary That Actually Works In Active Addiction? 3 Traps To Avoid
13 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When you’re living in the chaos of an alcoholic marriage, boundaries aren’t just helpful—they’re essential. But here’s the thing: not all bo...
EP 31 Why Aren't My Boundaries Working? 4 Boundary Mistakes In Active Addiction
06 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Setting boundaries in a marriage impacted by addiction is hard enough—but what happens when we set boundaries that backfire? In this episode, we’r...
Ep 30 How Did It Get This Bad? Setting Boundaries In An Alcoholic Marriage Broke My Heart!
30 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
There’s a specific kind of heartbreak that comes when you realize the life you dreamed of isn’t the life you’re living—and that setting a boun...
Ep 29 Do I Keep Bringing Sobriety Up? How Can I Encourage AA? Insights From Our Story: A Husband In Recovery Answers These Questions ♥ //Interview Part 2//
23 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome back to Part 2 of my honest conversation with my husband, who is now in long-term recovery from alcohol. This episode dives into some of the m...
Ep 28 Want A Peek Inside HIS Alcoholic Brain? A Husband In RECOVERY Shares Why Conversations With Wifey Did Not Lead To Quick Change And What You Can Do Instead //Interview- Part 1//
17 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this special two-part episode, I sit down with my husband—who is in long-term recovery from alcoholism—to answer a heartfelt and all-too-relata...
Ep 27 Summer & Self-Sabotage: Does Your Husband Start Meaningless Fights For An Excuse To Drink?
02 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Summer is supposed to be a time of fun, family, and freedom — but for Christian wives of alcoholics, events like the 4th of July, barbecues, and ne...
Ep 26 Conflict in the World, Chaos at Home: How To Find Peace Amid Addiction, Alcoholism, and Anxiety
25 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’re talking about what it feels like to live in a world full of uncertainty—when bombs are being dropped o...
Ep 25 Discerning Who Is Safe To Talk To About Your Alcoholic Husband And The Chaos Of Addiction In Your Home?
19 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How do you know if someone is safe to talk to about your marriage, your alcoholic husband, or the chaos addiction is causing in your home? In this epi...
EP 24 Health: Alcohol, Liver Damage, and Loving a Husband Who Won’t Stop Drinking.
11 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you the only one paying attention to the warning signs? What even are the warning signs for Liver Disease and Liver Cirhossis and when to expect t...
EP 23 Can You Be a Good Christian Wife and Still Be Angry At The Unfairness Of Addiction?
05 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
As a Christian wife living with an alcoholic husband, you’ve probably wrestled with a deep emotional conflict: “I know I’m supposed to forgive, ...
Ep 22 Part 2 Heavy Drinking or Alcoholism? Not Sure If Hubby Can Stop Drinking Or Not?
29 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Still unsure if your husband is “just” a heavy drinker or a true alcoholic? The truth is: chasing a diagnosis often becomes a distraction that del...
EP 21 Part 1 Is It Alcoholism Or Just Heavy Drinking? Where Is The Line?
21 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you constantly wondering whether your husband is an alcoholic or “just” a heavy drinker? Maybe you've searched for clarity in books, blogs, or...
Ep 20 Helping Your Husband Or Enabling Addiction? A Litmus Test For Wives
14 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re helping your husband or enabling his addiction, this episode is for you. As Christian wives, we’re called...
Ep 19 Peace in the Chaos Starts Here: A Mindset for Boundaries as the Wife of an Alcoholic
07 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode on boundaries, we return to the basics—what they are, why they matter, and how they serve as a powerful shield for your peace. Thin...
Ep 18 "I Can Quit Drinking Alcohol Anytime I Want!" An Honest Look At Denial From an Alcoholic Husband Pursuing Recovery //Interview//
01 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever wondered what your husband is thinking!? Active Addiction comes with all kinds of twisted thinking in the mind to justify otherwise unhe...
Ep 17 Recovery of Your Family Begins With YOU! Combatting Childhood Trauma From The Trenches. ACA Al Ateen
23 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this powerful episode, Recovery of Your Family Begins With YOU!, I share a story I heard in Al-Anon that stopped me in my tracks—a story that hel...
Ep 16 Parenting Through The Dysfunction Of Alcoholism: How Do I Lead My Kiddos? ACOA Al Ateen Al Anon
16 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send your questions to the show! [email protected] Our kids are looking to us for guidance on how to navigate all of this. They can get caught ...
EP 15 Childhood Trauma and The Impact of Alchoholism on Our Kids! ACOA CPTSD
09 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The impact of alcoholism on me was IMMENSE! However, my kids were experiencing all of this too through the littlest eyes and innoent hearts! I did not...
Ep 14 Being Married To An Alcoholic is SO Lonely! Who Can You Talk To As The Trauma Piles Up?
02 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Tune in to hear ONE thing that God taught me during this painful lonely season. Being married to an alcoholic who thinks that everything is FINE is SO...
Ep 13 The Sobriety, Recovery, Relapse Cycle of Addiction is EXHAUSTING! One Practical Thing You Can Do Now!
26 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today hear the ONE thing I did that helped me to start leaning on those that God had placed in my life. To bear someone else’s burden is a powerful ...
Ep 12 Boundaries 101: Married To An Alcoholic? 2 Foundational Boundaries To Set First!
18 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Connect with me at [email protected] When the confusion and gaslighting are a normal way of life in your alchoholic marriage, and life is flyin...
Ep 11 Identify Gaslighting Cycles: Is Your Husband Lying About His Drinking?
07 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Connect with me at [email protected] Lying about drinking is SO COMMON in alcoholic marriages! Christians are not immune to the lying and gasli...
Ep 10 Should I Stay in My Alcoholic Marriage? Should I Leave My Alcoholic Marriage? I Thought About This ALL The Time!
25 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Connect with me at [email protected] It is the ultimate question! Join me as I pour out my heart on this topic that often took me captive and...
Ep 09 Do You Feel Like His Mother? Alcoholism in Marriage Creates Unhealthy Dynamics
14 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
“ I feel like his mother!” Did you get married expecting a spouse and a life partner? Do you need someone to lean on and instead end up picking up...
Ep 8 Needing Consistent Support? Feeling Defeated? 3 Supportive Resources NEAR YOU for Wives of Alcoholics!
14 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Connect with me at [email protected] QUESTIONS? Submit your question to the email above and listen for a response on the show. Do you attend ...
Ep 07 Praying Your Husband Will Choose Recovery This Year? Tips To Support the Pre-Recovery Stage!
07 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How to support ideas of Recovery in the New Year! Did your husband mention a New Years Resolution to cut back drinking? Are you praying he will walk i...
Ep 06 Are You Exhausted in the Chaos of Addiction? 3 Tips for Biblical Rest and Renewal God’s Way.
30 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you exhausted? The fallout can be immense after holidays or special occasions. I believe we experience this at a higher and deeper level in marr...
Ep 05 Lonely? Hopeless? Stressed? Encouragement For Christian Wives of Alcoholics Hoping for Recovery
23 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What do we do with all of these emotions that hit us and create a storm of heaviness? The Bible gives us some direction on this topic and as a gift fr...
Ep 04 Do You LOVE an Alcoholic? Safety Steps to Guard Your Heart, Home and Children.
17 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What will you do if your husband drives intoxicated? How can you protect your kids from the impacts of alcoholism if things get out of hand? Do you ha...
Ep 03 Navigating Drinking Culture? Hint- Alcohol is Normalized EVERYWHERE!! Are Your BOUNDARIES Ready?
04 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Holidays and alcohol tend to go hand in hand in our culture. How can we regain some control of this painful reality to manage alcohol's presence at ou...
Ep 02 Parenting With an Alcoholic Husband? Tips for Peace & Joy with Kids.
26 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Trying to parent with someone in Active Alcoholism is nearly impossible! Ask me! I did it for years and even the best mama can get so overwhelmed by…...
Ep 01 You’re Not Crazy: Gaslighting in Your Alcoholic Marriage? You are NOT Alone!
19 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to Wife on the Rocks! Have you ever felt crazy in your alcoholic marriage? Does it feel like you are the keeper of secrets and no one else kno...
Wife on the Rocks Trailer
19 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you a Christian wife in an Alcoholic Marriage? Do things seem really complicated in your relationship? Do you struggle to put words to how you a...