Worth Recovery

Episode 189: Recovery Toolbox: Living in your time zone

02 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey, friends! Welcome back to another episode of the Worth Recovery Podcast. I’m Amy, your host, and I’m a sex/love/relationship addict. I’ve be...

Episode 188: Dialing It In

29 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Discovering Your Personal Mixing Board Hey, friends! In this episode of The Worth Recovery Podcast, we're diving into a fun and helpful analogy for pe...

Episode 187: Trauma Responses

26 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome back, friends, to another episode of the Worth Recovery Podcast. I’m Amy, and today I’m sharing an episode I recorded two years ago about ...

Episode 186: 11 Years Sober

16 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of The Worth Recovery Podcast, I'm celebrating 11 years of sobriety since December 2, 2012. Reflecting on this milestone, I explore ho...

Episode 185: Engage - Discipline

09 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What role does Discipline play in your recovery?  Do you need more discipline in order to get where you want to be?   In this episode, Amy discusses...

Episode 184: Engage

18 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you engaging in your recovery?     Every year I pick a word for the year that encapsulates my intentions for the next 12 months.  This year, t...

Episode 183: Holding Space

17 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The longer I've been a coach and therapist, the more I realize recovery has a whole vocabulary all it's own!  I use words people have never heard or ...

Episode 182: Begin Again

02 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Over and over, we begin again. I believe the practice of beginning again is one of the single most significant gifts you can give yourself.  This is ...

Episode 181: Can’t vs. Won’t

07 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel stuck?  Sometimes, during my 10 year sobriety journey, I have felt very stuck and very upset about being stuck.  In this episode, I talk...

Episode 180: Believing is Seeing - 10 Years Sober

02 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today, December 2, 2022, I celebrate 10 years sober.  In this episode I talk about some of the thinking that had to change for me to achieve this acc...

Episode 179: Worth Reading - The Four Agreements

23 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Continuing our Worth Reading series, I share one of the books that was fundamental to my mindset work.  I was struggling with my people pleasing beha...

Episode 178: Dimensions of Courtship - Part 2

16 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this second part, we continue our discussion about the 12 dimensions of courtship including intimacy, touching, foreplay, intercourse, commitment, ...

Episode 177: Dimensions of Courtship, Part 1

09 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The goal of sex addiction recovery isn't sobriety.  Sobriety is a tool we use.  But the actual goal of sex addiction recovery is that you have amazi...

Episode 176: Models of Addiction

02 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

For decades we've been viewing addiction through the disease lens.  Before that, it was a moral failing.  What is next as we increase our knowledge ...

Episode 175: Worth Reading - ”Ready to Heal”

26 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Worth Reading is a series of podcasts where I share my review of books that have had meaning to me throughout the recovery process.   Today I reflect...

Episode 174: Long Term Recovery

19 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In December 2021, I celebrated my 9 year sobriety anniversary.  Wow!  9 Years Sober!  One of my clients asked me, what has changed in my life since...

Episode 173: Leveling Up

12 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Evolution is a necessary part of life.  As we grow and change, it is necessary to reevaluate our recovery and our life.  Our beliefs, practices, thi...

Episode 172: Implementation Framework

05 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Happy New Year!  Welcome to 2022! After a long hiatus of podcasting, I'm at it again.  January is my favorite month of the year.  I simply LOVE New...

Episode 171: BDSM with Kristal Garcia

16 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sexuality is unique for each person. However, abuse is never a healthy part of sexuality. In this episode, I explore the connection between BDSM and a...

Episode 170: Motivation

22 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Motivation.... how do you get it? how do you keep it?  how do you refuel it?  This is one of the most common questions I get!  So in this episode I...

Episode 169: Worth Reading - Alcoholics Anonymous

27 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

New Series Announcement!  I'm super excited to start a new series this month - Worth Reading.  The 4th week of every month this year we will discuss...

Episode 168: Intent and Impact

20 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

One of the questions people consistently ask me is about the ONE THING that made the difference in my recovery.  That is an impossible question to an...

Episode 167: Women's Stories Series - Lisa

13 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Continuing my work to get more and more women's recovery stories out there - que Lisa.  She is amazing. I was truly inspired by her compassion and em...

Episode 166: Loving Yourself Through the Process

06 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

2020 was not my best year.  While I learned a lot and had some great opportunities and wins, there were many things that didn't happen.  I'm calling...

Episode 165: Women's Stories Series: Kristal

28 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What an amazing opportunity to have Kristal Garcia on the podcast! I was inspired by her radical self-love and forgiveness. I was challenged by her co...

Episode 164: Tending to Our Emotions

08 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Emotions.  They are beautiful and make us human AND they are difficult and can make us fearful.  In this episode I share with you a recent problem I...

Episode 163: Women's Stories Series - Rosario

13 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

I love having guests on the podcast. I love it even more when they are women sharing their own recovery journey.  Rosario is a brave young woman shar...

Episode 162: The Connection Crisis

24 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Connection is such a necessary part of life. Yet, for so many reasons it feels scary and unsafe. With everything else going on the world right now - p...

Episode 161: Privilege, Pandemic & Pacing

27 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

There is a whole lot going on right now.  As we grasp for information we don't have a whole lot of expectations are being put on us and how we should...

Episode 160: Women's Stories - The Grace Spot

21 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Alice Taylor is the author of "Restored: A Women's Guide to Overcoming Pornography", a book full of amazing, practical tools to help you in your recov...

Episode 159: Your Moment of Free Fall

17 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Free Fall is an opportunity to reorganize your life really quickly. In a matter of moments/days/weeks things can look really different.  At least it ...

Episode 158: Lockdown Loneliness

13 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

How many days have you been alone in your house?  Or at least felt alone, whether you actually were or not?  Have you struggled with loneliness duri...

Episode 157: Women's Stories: Natalie, Pt. 3

08 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In the conclusion of Natalie's story, we hear more about her recovery journey, the groups she attended, the problems she has faced in finding help, as...

Episode 156: Women's Stories: Natalie, Pt. 2

13 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Part 2 of Natalie's Story:  Another brave woman coming forward to share her story!  I'm always so honored when women are willing to share their stor...

Episode 155: Women's Stories: Natalie, Pt. 1

02 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Another brave woman coming forward to share her story!  I'm always so honored when women are willing to share their story with us!  Natalie is from ...

Episode 154: The Boundary Box

30 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

I have a love/hate relationship with boundaries.  At least, I used to. Boundaries are what keep us safe.  Having good boundaries can be life changin...

Episode 153: Leveling Your Behaviors

13 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

It's a new year, it's close to my sobriety anniversary, and it's my birthday!  All these things happen within a few weeks of each other.  This provi...

Episode 152: My OPEN Year - 2020

05 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

It's a new year and it's my annual time to evaluate my life and decide what the next step looks like for me.  My goal for this year is to be OPEN.  ...

Episode 151: Recovery Evolution

05 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

As you evolve, everything in your life must evolve.  If your evolution during recovery doesn't flow out to the other areas of your life, you could wa...

Episode 150: The price of Freedom

07 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

We recently celebrated Memorial Day here in the USA. This is a day we recognize all those who have made sacrifices for the freedoms we live with and e...

Episode 149: Doing it Poorly!

15 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

You've heard the phrase - If it's worth doing, it's worth doing well.  And while that applies in almost all cases, I also think if it's worth doing, ...

Episode 148: Compartmentalization

05 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

I know you've heard the term: compartmentalize.  Maybe you've even heard it glorified and bragged about by people. I'm so good at compartmentalizing ...

Episode 147: Minding the Gap

31 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

You asked - I'm answering.  You wanted to know how I do an evaluation of my life, how I make connections, how I know there is something off and how d...

Episode 146: The Cycle of Relationships

27 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

I'm resurrecting an episode that had gotten lost in the archives. Family relationships are hard! We enter recovery thinking that they will get better ...

Episode 145: One Layer Deeper and Family of Origin

20 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Jackie and I are EXCITED about what we are doing with One Layer Deeper (1LD). Are you looking to go one layer deeper in your recovery? Then maybe one ...

Episode 144: Departure

14 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

The first step of connection is departure.  - Delta Airlines We change, we have to, or we spend the rest of our lives fighting the same battles! - C...

Episode 143: Gaslighting, Part 2

04 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Let's keep talking gaslighting!!  In this episode we will continue our conversation about what gaslighting is, how you know if that is happening to y...

Episode 142: Gaslighting, Part 1

17 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Have you heard the term gaslighting? Do you know what it means? Are you currently or have you been a victim? In a recent coaching conversation, I was ...

Episode 141: Crab Mentality in Recovery

13 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever feel like everyone is pulling you down or holding you back?  Yeah - crabs do that.  Learn what crab mentality is and how it shows up in ...

Episode 140: Filling in Your Foundation

09 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Every semester I give the same "speech" to my math students as we begin class together.  This fall, as I was sharing it again, it hit me just how rec...

Episode 139: Getting Current

06 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Getting current is one of the first skills we can gain in recovery. In learning how to share our current reality, we learn how to accept where we are....

Episode 138: Step 10 - Promptly Admitted It

29 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Continuing our deep dive into Step 10, Amy discusses the third concept from Step 10 - When we were wrong, we promptly admitted it.  Step 10 is the ti...

Episode 137: Speaking the Truth

07 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Everyone has a right to speak their truth. If others don't agree with you, that doesn't invalidate your truth. If you don't speak your truth, it becom...

Episode 136: Redefining Self-Care

25 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Did you know that Self-Care was finally added to the dictionary? You now have a legitimate resource to help you prioritize taking care of yourself. If...

Episode 135: The Implementation Dip

13 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

The Implementation Dip is a massive part of the change process.  It has been studied in education for decades and is a massive part of the strategi...

Episode 134: Step 10 - Personal Inventory

11 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Continuing our look at Step 10, Amy dives into what exactly “Personal Inventory” is and why we need it in our recovery process.  The ability accu...

Episode 133: Women's Stories - An interview with Marnie Feree

22 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Marnie Feree is one of the pioneers of sex addiction recovery for women. Having been in addiction recovery for over 20 years - she was one of the firs...

Episode 132: Courage to Take the Wheel Part 2: Taking Back The Wheel

15 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We need our emotions. They keep us alive. They make the world worth living.  If we couldn't feel pain, joy, fear, anger, or love what would we do wit...

Episode 131: Step 10 - We Continued

13 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Picking up the series on the 12 steps of recovery, Amy discusses Step 10: We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly adm...

Episode 130: Courage to Take The Wheel: Who's Driving Part 1

06 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We need our emotions. They keep us alive. They make the world worth living.  If we couldn't feel pain, joy, fear, anger, or love what would we do wit...

Episode 129: Say No to the Drama! Part 3: Getting Out

01 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

In the conclusion of our series about the Karpman Drama Triangle we discuss how to GET OUT! There is preventative work we can do so we don't get sucke...

Episode 128: The 5 Gifts of Being a Sponsor

29 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

According to a recent poll, 9 out of 10 recovering addicts said that having a sponsor was ESSENTIAL to their sobriety and recovery. That was definitel...

Episode 127: Say No To the Drama, Part 2

22 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

In the continuation of the drama series, I discuss how amazingly quickly we can shift between roles on the triangle. It is SO CRAZY! We all have our f...

Episode 126: The Courage to Reach Out

18 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I have been so touched recently by how many of you have reached out asking questions or wanting to connect.  It is hard to reach out!  It is hard to...

Episode 125: Courage to Say NO to the Drama, Part 1

15 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Once in recovery, the unmanageability of our lives slows down, thankfully.  Yet, there sometimes remains an element of drama in our relationships.  ...

Episode 124: Lessons about Grief

03 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Loss is hard. Grieving is hard. So many opinions, so many ideas, so many expectations to navigate. After attending the funeral for my sweet friends mo...

Episode 123: One Layer Deeper - Dating in Recovery

13 Apr 2018

Contributed by Lukas

With guests Jackie P. and Jon T. from the Thanks for Sharing Podcast, we announce and disucss new opportunities for those looking to start dating in r...

Episode 122: Courage to Pay the Price

12 Apr 2018

Contributed by Lukas

My mom has always told me: Amy, you have the grades you are willing to pay the price for.  Amy, you have the spirituality you are willing to pay the ...

Episode 121: The Courage to Tell Your Story

30 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Telling our story is hard and scary. Publishing it for anyone to read is a whole different level. In this episode I interview Erica Garza, author of "...

Episode 120: The Courage to Try Again

20 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

I think we've all been there.... the place where we have to start over, again. And we start asking ourselves - is it worth it? I've tried this before ...

Episode 119: The Courage to be Known

14 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

When we grow up in dysfunctional systems, we learn to protect ourselves. One of those survival mechanisms is keeping ourselves small, invisible, unkno...

Episode 118: The Courage to Circle Back

27 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Our world is not linear. Yet, many times we think that is how it “should” be. We work through something, trauma, addiction, relationships, mother ...

Episode 117: What Courage do you need TODAY?

20 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Using a recent entry from her journal, Amy discusses daily courage. How do we find the daily courage needed to face the overwhelm we sometimes feel? ...

Episode 116: The Courage to Commit

17 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Committing to recovery takes courage. Especially in those early days when you aren’t quite able to stay sober or when every step you take feels like...

Episode 115: Courage to Slow Down

09 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Recorded on a recent trip to California, Amy shares some of her recent experiences requiring the courage to slow down. In our world, it is easy to giv...

Episode 114: The Year of Courage

06 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Are you ready for 2018?  In this episode Amy shares how her current depression has gotten the better of her for planning this next year and how she i...

Episode 113: 5 Years Sober

13 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode Amy celebrates her sobriety anniversary of 5 YEARS SOBER! She sha res the three big principles that helped her get this far and why mi...

Episode 112: Women’s Stories: Joyce Part 2

01 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Joyce was in sex addiction recovery for years before she ever saw another woman. After a few years, she left recovery and thought she had it all toget...

Episode 111: Women's Stories: Joyce Part 1

01 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Joyce was in sex addiction recovery for years before she ever saw another woman. After a few years, she left recovery and thought she had it all toget...

Episode 110: To the Women Who Came Before Me

27 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

After listening to a song from her nieces and nephews, Amy reflects and expresses her gratitude to the women who came before her.  Finding gratitude ...

Episode 108: Letting Go of Expectations

19 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Expectations control our entire life. The way we behave and feel about ourselves is mostly driven by the hidden expectations that run our lives.  In...

Episode 107: Broadening Your World View

14 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Amy shares some personal news and discusses how our experiences can help to broaden our view and drive us to connect with others.  S...

Episode 106: Women's Stories: Sally Part 2

23 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Continuing their interview, Sally shares with Amy what it was like to write and share her 1st step with her support circle.  She shares some of her e...

Episode 105: Women's Stories: Sally Part 1

19 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Continuing our Women's Stories series, Sally shares her first written 1st step with us here at Worth Recovery.  Her story is one of faith, hope, pers...

Episode 104: The Season of Letting Go

17 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Fall brings changing leaves, cooler temperatures, and everything pumpkin spice. And fall brings many lessons for us to learn.  To everything there is...

Episode 103: A Few Degrees

23 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I never thought as a child that I wanted to grow up to be a sex addict.  That wasn't the course I was on.  Life knocked me a few degrees here and th...

Episode 102: Celebrating Your Independence

11 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

During the month of July we celebrate Independence Day in the United States.  Amy shares her feelings on declaring her independence from addiction an...

Episode 101: Intentional Recovery Report

07 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

We just finished our event in Seattle Washington and I wanted to share with you the three impact moments for me.

Episode 100: Spiritual Healing Part 2

01 Jul 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Continuing from Episode 95, Amy shares more about her spiritual healing process.  Recovery is a healing process that requires dedicated effort and ti...

Episode 099: Adults are not to be trusted

17 Jun 2017

Contributed by Lukas

When my nephew told me, "Adults are not to be trusted", it broke my heart.  I hurt for him and his current reality AND I hurt for the feeling of fami...

Episode 098: Intentional Recovery

09 Jun 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Healing happens on purpose.  In this episode, Amy shares the year she became intentional about her recovery.  It is easy to float along in recovery,...

Episode 097: Living In the In-Between

31 May 2017

Contributed by Lukas

So much of living in recovery is living in the in-between times: the time from where we were to where we want to be.  Whether it's the space between ...

Episode 096: Step 9 - It Works When I Work It

28 May 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Continuing the journey through the 12 steps, Amy concludes the discussion of Step 9 with this episode:  It Works When I Work It.  The SAA Green Book...

Episode 095: Spiritual Healing, Part 1

18 May 2017

Contributed by Lukas

So much of recovery is a healing process.  Healing of mind, body, and spirit.  The SA White Book tells us that healing has to come about in three ar...

Episode 093: Step 9 - Types of Amends

25 Apr 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Are you tired of saying you're sorry?  Picking back up the series on the 12 steps of Recovery, Amy continues the discussion on Step 9:  Made direct ...

Ep 092: Every 28 Days - The Cycles in Our Lives

14 Apr 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Everything in our physical world around us cycles. Weather, plants, and animals are just a few of the things that cycle. It makes sense then, that our...

Episode 091: Pushing Play

07 Apr 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Music has been such a big part of my life. In our world we are surrounded by music. Are you using music intentionally in your recovery? In this episod...

Episode 090: Women's Stories - An Interview with Shannon, Part 2

04 Apr 2017

Contributed by Lukas

In Part 2 with Shannon we discuss children, recovery journeys, daily routines and blogging.  A few months ago, Shannon started blogging for Worth Rec...

Episode 089: Women's Stories - An Interview with Shannon, Part 1

31 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

A few months ago, Shannon started blogging for Worth Recovery.  Her words are real, authentic, relatable, inspiring and uplifting.  Her story is the...

Episode 088: The Power of AND

21 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

After listening (really watching) two friends have a heated argument on Facebook, I started to really pay attention to my usage of the word "but".  I...