X & Y On The Fly - Dating Podcast | Love | Sex | Relationships
Episodes
Episode 58--X & Y On The Fly--Sexy Moms, Sexy Dads
Contributed by Lukas
Parenthood is hot, and we can prove it! Curiously enough, however, the first direction we went in was debating the 'dad bod' and 'mom bod' factor. Do ...
Episode 57--X & Y On The Fly--Dealing With Disruption
Contributed by Lukas
This episode may come off as a bit weird up front, as it's the first show we've ever published to BOTH The Mountain Top and X & Y On The Fly feeds. Bu...
Episode 56--X & Y On The Fly--2020 Hindsight...And Foresight
Contributed by Lukas
This episode may come off as a bit weird up front, as it's the first show we've ever published to BOTH The Mountain Top and X & Y On The Fly feeds. Bu...
Episode 79--X & Y On The Fly--Is That A Dealbreaker?
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Emily and I address the sticky topic of dealbreakers in a relationship. Is having too many dealbreakers--or focusing on them--a dealbr...
Episode 55--X & Y On The Fly--Blowing Up The Chemistry Lab
Contributed by Lukas
There are certain so-called experts out there who would say two people sharing 'chemistry' between them is a BAD thing. What's up with that? Does it h...
Episode 54--X & Y On The Fly--How Men Talk About Women When They're Not Around
Contributed by Lukas
First and foremost, you can find the OPPOSITE conversation on how women talk about men when they're not around over on episode 134 of The Mountain Top...
Episode 53--X & Y On The Fly--Why Do Men And Women Have Such A Hard Time Meeting Each Other?
Contributed by Lukas
Given how complicated men and women make it to meet and attract each other, it's a miracle there are seven-and-a-half billion of us on this planet, ri...
Episode 52--X & Y On The Fly--Why All The Controversy Surrounding Masculinity And Femininity?
Contributed by Lukas
After millennia of assumptive coexistence, the idea of masculine/feminine polarity is under fire. Is it all really a societal construct designed to op...
Episode 51--X & Y On The Fly--How Can Couples Help Each Other Grow As Individuals?
Contributed by Lukas
Just because you and your significant other are now a couple doesn't mean you stop being two individual humans. Joining us this time are Stephen and T...
Episode 31--X & Y On The Fly--"I'm Just Not Feeling It Anymore"
Contributed by Lukas
Special Guest David Wygant (www.deservewhatyouwant.com/wygant). Why is it so many people can't stay attracted to someone who used to seem so hot to t...
Episode 50--X & Y On The Fly--What We Have Here Is Failure To Communicate
Contributed by Lukas
How do we go this many episodes without covering this insanely important factor in a healthy relationship? Derek and Heidi from Uncharted Family sit i...
Episode 49--X & Y On The Fly--The Honeymoon Phase
Contributed by Lukas
After over two years of radio silence, it's time to fire up the XYOTF engine again. What better way than to invite our friends Justin Stenstrom and Sa...
Episode 38--X & Y On The Fly--Who Wears The Pants?
Contributed by Lukas
Okay, who really should be calling the shots when it comes to relationship management? The man? How about the woman? Emily and Scot define what 'we...
Episode 48--X & Y On The Fly--His Friends, Her Friends, Our Friends...Then NO Friends?
Contributed by Lukas
So you've got a new 'significant other'? Great...now what about your friends? How do you keep your friends from jealously sabotaging your relationsh...
Episode 47--X & Y On The Fly--Parenthood: The Greatest Birth Control Method Ever
Contributed by Lukas
Okay, it's been almost four years since the subject of 'kids' has been brought up on this show, and there's plenty more to discuss nowadays. After al...
Episode 45--X & Y On The Fly--Open Relationships
Contributed by Lukas
Get ready for a no-holds-barred discussion on all sorts of non-monogamous relationships. Swingers and 'The Lifestyle'? The 'don't ask / don't tell' ...
Episode 44--X & Y On The Fly--Hey Jealousy
Contributed by Lukas
Where are you? Who were you with? What's more annoying, having to ask questions like that or being on the receiving end of them? Well, in this epis...
Episode 43--X & Y On The Fly--You Can't Live With 'Em, And You Can't Shoot 'Em
Contributed by Lukas
Let's face it, whether you're a man or a woman there are things about the opposite gender that tend to drive you nuts. Why do they do all that annoyi...
Episode 42--X & Y On The Fly--First Dates That Lead To Second Dates
Contributed by Lukas
Going on a first date can be a nerve-wracking experience for someone of either gender. But it doesn't have to be. Listen in as Scot and Emily talk a...
Episode 41--X & Y On The Fly--Movie Moments
Contributed by Lukas
What is is about romantic "movie moments" that drive women wild? Better yet, what can guys learn from Hollywood about how to ignite femininity and be...
Episode 40--X & Y On The Fly--Dating When Kids Are In The Picture
Contributed by Lukas
Are you a single parent? Or are you dating someone who is? If so, this episode is dedicated to you. With their son just about to celebrate his first ...
Episode 39--X & Y On The Fly--Dealing With Exes...As Opposed To Taking Them Back
Contributed by Lukas
Should you really try to get your ex back after a breakup? The answer: It depends. You're about to find out what it dependsexactly. Emily and Scot ...
Episode 37--X & Y On The Fly--Dating Differences When You're Younger Vs. Older
Contributed by Lukas
It has been said that this podcast has something for everyone, and this episode pretty much proves it. What are the disadvantages of dating when you ...
Episode 36--X & Y On The Fly--How To Communicate With The Opposite Sex
Contributed by Lukas
OK, get your "decoder rings" on. Emily and Scot are feelin' decidedly frisky after almost two months without an XYotF show, and ready to help you fig...
Episode 35--X & Y On The Fly--Get Over It: How To Fall Out Of Love
Contributed by Lukas
Special guest Renee Piane (www.deservewhatyouwant.com/renee). It happens to the best of us. You meet someone (or not even?) and you fall for him or h...
Episode 34--X & Y On The Fly--How To Understand The Opposite Sex
Contributed by Lukas
Are you kidding me? Do Emily and Scot really think they can solve 'world peace' in a single podcast? Actually, understanding MOTOS (Members Of The O...
Episode 33--X & Y On The Fly--Who's Got It Harder In The Dating World, Men Or Women?
Contributed by Lukas
Emily and Scot are back with another mano-a-mano discussion on a truly controversial topic. So which gender has the more difficult time when it comes...
Episode 32--X & Y On The Fly--An Unsettling Discussion About Settling
Contributed by Lukas
Special Guest Sean Stephenson (www.timetostand.com). You look around you and see couples who can't seem to get along. Then you wonder how they ever ...
Episode 30--X & Y On The Fly--What Does A 'Happy Relationship' Look Like?
Contributed by Lukas
Special Guests Jon and Laurie Weiss (www.deservewhatyouwant.com/happy). We all know that men and women are supposed to be 'happy' together. But what...
Episode 29--X & Y On The Fly--You've Attracted One...Now What?
Contributed by Lukas
Special Guest Marie Forleo (www.deservewhatyouwant.com/marie). There's a lot of talk about how to create attraction. But what is there to remember a...
Episode 0--X & Y On The Fly--The Introcast
Contributed by Lukas
At long last--and after a considerable number of requests from listeners--this is the 'introcast' episode. Recorded nearly a year after Episode 1 was...
Episode 88--X & Y On The Fly--The Seasons Of Marriage (20 Years In!)
Contributed by Lukas
Since our last episode, Emily and I celebrated 20 years together. Over the course of two decades, we've realized there are seasons to a marriage. Now ...
Episode 89--X & Y On The Fly--You Never Outgrow Flirting
15 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Yes, we're talking about flirting...and flirting should indeed be fun. If it's work, drudgery, or even creepy and weird then we're not doing it right....
Episode 87--X & Y On The Fly--The Evolution Of Dating Advice
26 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Dating and relationship advice has gone through significant changes over the last 20 years. Some of it has been good and necessary evolution, some of ...
Episode 86--X & Y On The Fly--What If You're Disappointed?
17 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Well, here's the first thing you can figure out, just from the title: Emily and I are obviously not disappointed enough in each other to avoid such a ...
Episode 85--X & Y On The Fly--Dating, Relating And Pets
08 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Here comes a long-overdue conversation on how pets affect relationships between men and women. As you might have already imagined, this went in probab...
Episode 84--X & Y On The Fly--Dealing With Your Ex (Or Theirs)
30 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Maybe Emily and I waited almost 20 years to cover this subject because it's a touchy one that hits just a little too close to home for both of us. But...
Episode 83--X & Y On The Fly--What If We Have Sex Too Soon?
21 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Nowadays we live in a culture that extols selfhood and immediate gratification. As marriage becomes less revered as an institution, lots of people are...
Episode 82--X & Y On The Fly--Dating And Relating: The Next 25 Years
10 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Last week we covered how dating and relating between men and women has evolved over the past quarter century. But what about the next 25 years...and i...
Episode 81--X & Y On The Fly--Dating And Relating: The Last 25 Years
03 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Exactly 25 years and one week ago, everyone's attention was on whether or not the dreaded Y2K bug was going to crash the world's computer systems and ...
Episode 80--X & Y On The Fly--Should We Get Into A Relationship At All?
25 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Okay, I'm going to admit right up front that Emily and I obviously believe relationships are worth getting into, since we've shared a great one togeth...
Episode 78--X & Y On The Fly--Kickin' It Old Skool With My Baby
07 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
First and foremost, if you think even for a second that this episode is going to be about two dinosaurs reminiscing about the past, you're in for a su...
Episode 77--X & Y On The Fly--Underrated Ways To Know You've Found "The One"
29 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Lots of dating and relationship advice talks about how to know when you've finally met the right partner to build a long-term relationship with. And y...
Episode 76--X & Y On The Fly--Dating And Relationships With Someone Younger
19 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Finally, here's the full episode on a topic that everyone wonders about. It's no secret that men often want to date younger women. But what is it abou...
Episode 75--X & Y On The Fly--First Date Weirdness? You Are NOT Alone
10 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you've been out there dating for any time at all, you've likely compiled your fair share of weird dating stories. It's easy to think that those sit...
Episode 74--X & Y On The Fly--Creepy People
01 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We've all found ourselves out on a date with someone who creeped us out. And no...it's not gender-specific. But what does 'creepy' even mean? Why is i...
Episode 73--X & Y On The Fly--What Does A Normal Relationship Look Like?
23 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Every couple thinks and behaves differently. You've probably thought and behaved differently depending on who your significant other was at a particul...
Episode 72--X & Y On The Fly--All About Power Couples
14 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
You hear the term 'power couple' quite a bit, but what exactly does it mean? We know one when we see one, for sure. But is it necessarily a good thing...
Episode 71--X & Y On The Fly--What Dating Is Like For Attractive Women
03 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It seems to everyone paying attention that beautiful women enjoy a massive 'halo effect'. It's like they're treated like celebrities--or even royalty-...
Episode 70--X & Y On The Fly--Weed Out The Wrong Ones
25 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Who knows why this topic hadn't been covered yet around here? My edumckayted guess is it probably had something to do with repressed memories. Yes, Em...
Episode 69--X & Y On The Fly--Blended Families
02 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Let's face it, when single moms and single dads get together, it's pure naive idealism that would cause us to expect we're creating our own Brady Bunc...
Episode 68--X & Y On The Fly--Words That Cannot Be Unsaid
17 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
As the lyrics of one of Tyler Childers' songs say, 'There is hurt you can cause that time alone cannot heal'. When it comes to our interactions with w...
Episode 67--X & Y On The Fly--Who is Jen, And Why Is She Texting You?
01 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
No matter how well a couple gets along and navigates their relationship, there always seems to be a challenge to your relationship coming from somewhe...
Episode 66--X & Y On The Fly--The Little Things That Make A Relationship Suck
31 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In the second installment of our two-part episode, Emily and I break down the little things couples do (often to each other) that make a relationship ...
Episode 65--X & Y On The Fly--The Little Things That Make A Relationship Great
24 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This is the first of a two-part episode on the little things that either make a relationship great, or make it suck. Sure, you hear about the major pi...
Episode 64--X & Y On The Fly--Trust Is The Cornerstone Of Every Relationship
08 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
It's the foundation of every good solid relationship. With it, you and your significant other are set for years of blissful happiness together. Withou...
Episode 63--X & Y On The Fly--Neediness, Desperation And Trying Too Hard
09 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Who knew a funny video featuring two cockatoos would lead to a full-on discussion of one of the most devastating--and common--ways we do mess up our c...
Episode 62--X & Y On The Fly--Stand By Your Man...Or Your Woman
23 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In 1968, Tammy Wynette released probably her most famous single, which caused immediate outrage from the Women's Movement. But Wynette countered by sa...
Episode 61--X & Y On The Fly--Dating And Relationships In 2021
01 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
2020 has finally drawn to a close and it's time to address 2021. What will the 'new normal' look like insofar as dating and relationships go? How soon...
Episode 60--X & Y On The Fly--Happy Relationship Or Miserable One?
25 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Last week on The Mountain Top podcast I said out loud that I had never met anyone in a happy relationship who was miserable. That concept is worth a d...
Episode 59--X & Y On The Fly--His Masculine Side, Her Feminine Side
02 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Everyone has heard about how men have a feminine side and women a masculine one. How true is that? And if it's the case, how does the concept typicall...
Episode 46--X & Y On The Fly--Is A Great Relationship Really A Lot Of 'Work'?
17 May 2011
Contributed by Lukas
We've all heard the old, worn-out cliche time and again...'If you want a great relationship with your significant other, you're going to have to WORK ...
Episode 28--X & Y On The Fly--The War Of The Roses
28 May 2007
Contributed by Lukas
Finally...something the 'perfectly imperfect' co-hosts don't exactly agree on. Emily thinks that men should give women LOTS of flowers, early and oft...