You Are Not A Frog
Episodes
Why We Need MORE Conflict in Our Teams
23 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Is everything OK within your team? Would anyone speak up if it wasn’t? If your team is quietly getting on while important stuff is getting missed, i...
Is My Attachment Style Causing My Burnout?
16 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The ways we deal with difficult situations at work and tricky relationships in general is massively influenced by our childhood. Discover what role at...
Are You an Accidental Toxic Leader?
09 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When something goes wrong in your team, do you immediately leap to the rescue? If so, you might unwittingly be practicing a form of leadership that’...
What Does High-Performance Look Like?
02 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Overlooking our physical wellbeing in the pursuit of success can lead to stress, burnout, and health problems. But there’s a key question we can ask...
The 3 Lies Which Hold Us Back
25 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When you start comparing what you have with others, you wrap your identity in what you do for work, or when someone judges you unfairly, there are som...
How to Put Your Team Back Together
18 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
How can we help ourselves and the people we lead to work more closely together, and speak up when there’s a problem, rather than merely just “cope...
What to Do When You Don’t Know What to Do
11 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If a situation’s not quite right or it feels like you’re in flux and you don’t know what to do, here are three simple things you can try today.D...
What Forgiveness Can Do for You
04 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Forgiveness is one of the most effective ways to begin healing from trauma. It doesn’t mean letting people off the hook, but finally being able to p...
The Biggest Mistakes People Make When They are Heading for Burnout
28 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When we notice the warning signs of burnout, we can end up either doing things that don’t help in the long-term, or we ignore the problem. Here are ...
Why Loneliness Can Kill, and What to Do About it
21 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Research shows that loneliness could be as detrimental to our health as cancer, and it’s not an issue affecting older people, but those in their tee...
How to Set a Boundary No-one Can Break
14 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Get more control over your time by clearly defining and enforcing your personal boundaries. Discover why it feels like people overstep them, and what ...
What to Do When a Colleague isn’t Pulling Their Weight
07 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When someone on your team isn't pulling their weight, it's not only demoralising for the rest of the team, but detrimental to the person in question. ...
Too Busy NOT to Pause
30 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re caught in a cycle of constant work, you might feel like you can't afford even a short break. But that only leads to burnout, so what do yo...
How to find your voice
23 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Lots of us struggle to express ourselves in the way we want to at work. But finding our voice is just the beginning – the next step is using it effe...
Only You Can Choose Your Next Move
16 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Comparing ourselves to others can be toxic, and lead us to ignore our own needs, and forget our unique limits. It’s time to follow our own path, to ...
How to Make a Difficult Decision
09 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Making the right decision can feel tricky, especially when they involve important life transitions. But there's a way out, and it starts with asking o...
What Happens When You Stay Too Long
02 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you're questioning whether a job or a relationship is right for you, it's worth exploring further, and taking those thoughts seriously. Remember th...
How Money Holds Us Back
26 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It’s easy to to find ourselves thinking that money holds the key to our happiness, security, and freedom. We can project our desires and aversions o...
Beware Your Kindest Colleagues
19 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when we're not feeling well, or when we're feeling overwhelmed at work? Often, we turn to our colleagues for support. But what happens wh...
Smashing the Gender Pay Gap for Women in Medicine
15 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Women in medicine are often undervalued and taken less seriously than their male counterparts. They’re also made to feel less safe at work, and enco...
How to Tell People What You REALLY Think
12 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Saying what you really feel – especially in a high-stress job – is no easy task. Crucial conversations are often avoided for fear of damaging rela...
Why Setting Goals Alone Won’t Help
05 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We often set goals in the belief they’ll make us happier. But setting goals alone might not be enough to truly help us thrive.In this quic...
Life’s Too Short NOT to Love What You Do
27 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
There are times working in medicine or other high-stress jobs, when you feel trapped and unhappy. And maybe you’ve told yourself you have no other o...
Finding Your North Star
20 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We’re all seeking the perfect job or career path that will bring us happiness and fulfilment. But while we’re focused on achieving success, we can...
How to get moving again when you feel stuck
13 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We all experience moments of feeling stuck. Sometimes we have the motivation, but something’s in our way. On other days the simplest things can feel...
The Most Powerful Question You Can Ask Yourself About Your Work
06 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you were in a life-or-death scenario and the only path out was over hot coals, would you take it? Of course. But when it comes to situations that a...
How to Feel Confident in Any Situation
30 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re in a job where you use your brain a lot, it can be easy to feel disconnected from your body and emotions. This in turn can lead to a lack ...
How to Get Out of a Toxic Shame Spiral
23 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We all experience shame from time to time, but when it becomes toxic, we can end up in a shame spiral from which it's difficult to escape. When we’r...
Getting a Breakthrough by Using Your Right Brain
16 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When we’re presented with a difficult problem, naturally we use logic and reasoning to solve it. But some problems – like stress and burnout – c...
The Three-Step Plan for Getting Your Sh*t Together
09 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
So you’ve got a problem, maybe a relationship issue at work or difficulties managing your workload. You’ve talked it with friends, but the solutio...
How to Decide if You Need to Stay or Leave a Difficult Situation
02 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Faced with a difficult situation, we often ask the question “should I stay or should I go?” It could be about work, a relationship, or something m...
What Shame Made Me Do
26 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you have a high-stakes job like medicine, shame can show up in unexpected and unwelcome places. Doctors have incredibly high societal expectations,...
How to Survive the Holiday Season
19 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The Christmas season can be a time of stress and disappointment, especially when our expectations don't match up with reality. We can find ourselves d...
How to Increase Your Confidence and Impact
12 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you're like most people, you'll have experienced moments when your confidence wavers, leaving you unsure of yourself and holding back from reaching...
How to Deal With Your Inner Critic
05 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We can learn how to say no to other people, but often don’t say no to ourselves or to our inner critic who’s always telling us we can do more or b...
How to Escape the Tyranny of the ‘Shoulds’
28 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find yourself trapped by the expectations and pressures of what you think you “should” be doing? Is there a voice in your head, berating yo...
Am I Burning Out?
21 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If your job is demanding, jou've probably wondered at some point if you're burning out. The constant stress and pressure in health and social care esp...
How to Manage Your Energy if You're a Highly Sensitive Person
14 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Managing your energy can be a challenge at the best of times. But if you’re a highly sensitive person, you might be more prone to burning out due to...
How Do You Say No When Someone Might Die?
07 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Saying no and setting boundaries are core to avoiding burnout. But if saying no might put a patient at harm – or worse – what can you do?In this q...
How to Challenge Upsetting Behaviour
31 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Interactions between team members can have a big impact on performance and outcomes. Disrespect and hostility can create a threatening environment and...
The Real Reason Other People's Boundaries Make Us Cross
24 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When someone else sets boundaries, do you feel able to do the same, or do you resent their ability to say no? Often, our anger towards others' boundar...
How to Be REALLY Productive... Without Losing the Plot
17 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Productivity and time management are difficult at the best of times. But when your job directly affects people’s lives, it can be tricky to make tim...
What Will Your Future Self Thank You For?
10 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We’ve all had weeks where our schedules are packed tightly and there’s no time for ourselves, leaving us exhausted and overwhelmed. The problem is...
Surprising Ways to Avoid Burnout
03 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you give yourself permission to rest? If you’re like many people in caring professions, you worry that taking time out to look after yourself mea...
Stress vs Overwhelm – And Why You Should Know the Difference
26 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We all get stressed or overwhelmed with our daily responsibilities from time to time. But we’re not always good at telling them apart. And this is i...
How to Cope With Your Kids’ Anxiety, Your Colleagues’, and Your Own
19 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Confronting anxiety is easier said than done. It’s hard enough with adults, but with children it’s even more tough. Anxiety keeps us safe, but oft...
Don't Wait for Tomorrow to Improve – Take Control Now
12 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find yourself thinking "it will be better tomorrow", or believing things will improve in a few months' time “when x happens”?In this quick ...
Is it You - or is it Menopause?
05 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
One way or another, menopause affects everyone at some point. If you’re not experiencing symptoms yourself, you almost certainly know or work with s...
Why You Don’t Need to Earn Your Rest
29 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
So many of us are caught up in a vortex of busyness. We end up working harder and harder without doing anything that re-energises us, all because we f...
Are Your Tiny Traumas Building Up to Burnout?
22 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
For people in caring professions, trauma can be something we experience on a regular basis. an event doesn’t have to be earth-shattering to be traum...
Get Some Air Cover to Help You Set Boundaries
15 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We’re not just service providers – we’re carers and helpers. This can make it hard to set boundaries and prioritise our workload. What we need i...
What Happens When We’re Really Listened to
08 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever feel like you're just not being heard? Or like you’re under pressure and no one understands how much you’re juggling? Especially in hi...
How to Use Power Language to Keep Your Boundaries Strong
01 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever had to do something you didn't want to do? Maybe it was a task at work, a favour for a friend, or a chore at home. It can be frustrating...
How to Thrive in a High-Stress Job When You’re Neurodivergent
25 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In the words of today’s podcast guest, “Everyone can benefit from neurodiversity”. But how much do you understand about the way it impacts you a...
Why You Should Expect Pushback and What To Do About It
18 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It's a fact of life that we can't please everyone. That's why one of the hardest things to do is say no and try to keep everyone happy with our decisi...
Embrace Your Capacity, Not Your Limits
11 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
High-stress and high-performance professions like healthcare often push people beyond their limits. When this happens, stress and burnout are often th...
How To Influence Without Getting Frustrated
04 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
You have brilliant ideas and solutions that can make a difference in your work. But how do you get others on board with them? It can be hard to convin...
What to Do When You Can Never Do Enough as a Working Mum with Corrina Gordon-Barnes
27 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode of You Are Not a Frog, our guest, Corrina Gordon-Barnes, joins us to discuss the challenges working mothers face in traditional family...
Do I Disappoint Myself Or Others?
20 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Disappointing ourselves and others is an awful feeling highlighted by guilt and shame. It can often lead us to act out regretfully as we attempt to ma...
How to Survive a Toxic System - on Both Sides of the Pond
13 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Does it feel like you're in a toxic work environment and can't get out? Too many doctors — both in the UK and elsewhere — find themselves in a whi...
How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 2
06 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Life can seem full of threats and stresses we face daily. As high-stress professionals, these types of situations are a part of daily life. All of thi...
How to Feel Happy, Calm, and Connected
30 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Our conditioning has trained us to rely on the egocentric left brain. We often overthink things, even when we have no control over them. But what if w...
How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 1
23 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Criticism and feedback are fundamental to growing as an individual and professional. However, often, our brain perceives such conflicts as a threat. T...
How to Do Something Different in Your Career
16 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week, Jo Watkins, co-founder of The HOW People, joins us to explore entrepreneurial possibilities for doctors without leaving their day jobs. We ...
Why We Become Terrible in a Crisis
09 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
As a medical professional, facing high-stress situations every day might make you think you can handle anything. But the truth is, decisiveness isn't ...
Are You OK?
02 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How often do you answer honestly when asked are you ok? Many people often say I’m’re ok even when you really aren’t. In truth, we aren’t ok. I...
What’s Your Flight Plan?
25 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever feel like someone else is running your life? Do you find yourself just following a set of instructions in everything you do? Without reali...
How to Stay Calm through Complaints (Even When It’s Personal)
18 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Can you keep cool when you receive a complaint about your work?Complaints are part and parcel of every profession. No matter how common they may be an...
Why Can’t I Say No
11 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Too often, we say yes to every request and every demand, even when it's not what we want. It's not about people-pleasing. It's about your values. But ...
How to Stop Making Decisions Based on Fear
04 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How do you make decisions? Is it from a deep place of knowing and intuition? Or is it merely out of fear? Making big decisions (or even small one...
The Problem with Boundaries
28 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We need boundaries. In fact, you might have already set some of your own. But ask yourself: how often do you let those boundaries crumble?It’s not u...
How to Avoid Burnout on Repeat
21 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
No one wants to burn out. When you experience burnout, you might find yourself thinking much more slowly and your productivity drops. Many high-stress...
How to Have More Impact with Less Effort
14 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What criteria do you use when prioritising the tasks on your to-do list? Do you just put them in the order you get them? Maybe you pick the ones that ...
The Glass Slipper and Other Challenges for Women in Medicine
07 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Professor Chloe Orkin & Dr Nuthana Bhayankaram of the Medical Women's Federation join us in this episode to discuss sexism in medicine. We share f...
The Power of Pressing Pause
27 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When you're dealing with a stressful situation, your first instinct might be to act immediately to solve it. Unfortunately, acting immediately often m...
How to Change Your Life in 12 Minutes Per Week
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
For high-stress professionals like us, one of the biggest obstacles to making a change in our lives or pursuing our great ideas is time. You might fee...
The One Thing You Can Do For Your Well-being
14 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
As healthcare professionals, we know what we need to do for our physical and mental well-being. So why aren’t we doing it?Often, the first thing we ...
How to Fix Your Broken Meetings
07 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Whether we like it or not, meetings are essential in running an organisation. But when was the last time you attended a meeting without feeling ...
Think Differently About Your To-Do List
31 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you constantly feel guilty about unfinished tasks at the end of the day? Do you keep finding yourself wanting to improve how you manage your time?Y...
How Perfectionism and Shame Lead to Stress and Burnout
24 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Why is it that doctors work themselves to the point of burnout and stress and making themselves sick? In a system that seems to demand perfectionism i...
Embracing Your Limits in a Limitless System
17 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Everyone praises those who work hard — so it’s not unusual for people to think that it’s good to push your limits and do as much as you can.But ...
How to Get People to LOVE your Ideas
10 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Convince change to happen.You've got great ideas for change. It's just a matter of putting these plans into motion. However, change needs to be someth...
When Working Harder Doesn't Work
03 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How have you been living your life so far? Most of us have worked hard all our lives to be successful. Whilst hard work is commendable, it can st...
Best Bits of 2022: Stress and Worry
27 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The stress and worry we felt during the pandemic didn’t disappear in 2022. As medical practitioners, having a myriad of problems and uncertainties o...
Best Bits of 2022: How to Build Confidence
20 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
As trained medical professionals, we are confident about our technical skills and our ability to work harder than most professions. But are we truly c...
How to Deal with Xmas Disasters and Other Disappointments in Life with Corrina Gordon-Barnes
13 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you look forward to Christmas holidays or other family celebrations only to be disappointed that reality is not what you had hoped it would be? Or ...
How to Know if You're Being 'Resilience Victim Blamed'
06 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What is your first thought when you think of the word ‘resilience’? For many professionals and organisations, this means becoming superhuman — s...
Job Crafting for Happiness
29 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How do you feel about your job? Do you enjoy all aspects of your work? Do you sometimes wish you could make it better? The demands in healthcare make ...
Is it ‘Normal’ Not to Cope?
22 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We often think stress and burnout are normal. However, anyone who has experienced extreme pressure can tell you that too much stress is bad for our he...
How to Stop Your Finances Controlling Your Career with Dr Tommy Perkins
15 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Many professionals in high-stress careers can find themselves working long hours every day and not growing wealthier. No matter how much you do or how...
You Choose
08 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you sometimes find yourself thinking that you don’t have a choice? Your circumstances and obligations seem to prevent you from taking any course ...
How to Stop Emotional Eating, Eat Better and Feel Better with Dr Matthea Rentea and Keri Williams
01 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We're all guilty of eating our feelings from time to time. It can happen to anyone for any reason — a bad day at work, a stressful time at home, a p...
If it Didn’t Hurt, There’d Be Something Wrong
25 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Learning to manage your emotions is a crucial skill. No matter the situation, letting your emotions get the best of you doesn't typically end well. Ho...
How to Balance Life and Work
18 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Does having a healthy work-life balance seem so unattainable that you’ve given up trying to acheive it? Work takes up most of our time, leaving only...
Shark Music
11 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Rachel gives a quick tip on facing shark music in this short episode of You Are Not a Frog. She shares her experiences of anticipating the worst-case ...
How to Choose Joy, Even When Life Sucks
04 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Angela Deutschmann joins us to talk about how to experience joy despite the challenges of the healthcare profession. Being in a high-...
How to Escape the Urgency Trap
27 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this short episode, Rachel talks about becoming more productive in life and work by escaping the urgency trap. She discusses the principles of the ...
How to Tell People What They Don’t Want to Hear
20 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Jane Gunn joins us once again to share her advice on how you can say no. Most people don’t want to hear rejection. Jane talks about...
But is it a Tiger?
13 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Rachel talks about how you can distinguish the tigers in your life and better understand why we respond to them in the first place. S...
What to Do When You are Overwhelmed with Gerrie Hawes
06 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Gerrie Hawes joins us in this episode to discuss the suffocating feeling of being overwhelmed, but also how to deal with it. She shares why it's impor...