Stop Shoulding Yourself: The ADHD Language Fix That Changes Everything

This week Sam and Katie are joined by ADHD coach Aoife Hughes for a deep dive into something deceptively simple but surprisingly powerful- the words we use when we talk about ADHD. Together they explore why phrases like ‘you should’ and ‘why can’t you just’ feel so heavy for ADHD brains, and how shifting just a few words can change motivation, self belief and emotional safety.Aoife breaks down how years of external messages become the voice in our head, why shoulds trigger perfectionism and shutdown, and how a tiny tweak to could gives us back choice and autonomy. She unpacks the role of the nervous system, how shame shows up in our language, and why declarative communication helps us feel understood rather than pressured.With practical tools for interrupting unhelpful thoughts, reducing overwhelm and reframing expectations, Aoife shows how changing your language can soften your inner critic, support your executive function and help you approach challenges with curiosity rather than fear.New episodes of You're Wrong About ADHD are available every Wednesday and Friday. Got a question or story for the team? Send it to [email protected]’re Wrong About ADHD is made in association with APX Content Ventures.

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