Episode 49: Audrey Borden (Dance Mom x 2) 🎙 In this episode: I talk with Audrey Borden, mom of two daughters who went from casual dance to pre-professional ballet. She shares the reality of parenting in the world of elite dance—where passion meets pressure, and the cost might just knock you off your feet. 🔹 Before You Were a Dance Parent Audrey opens up about the identity shift that happens when your kid’s activity takes over your family’s schedule—and your sense of self. 🔹 When Recital Turns Competitive That quiet moment when you realize… this isn’t just about joy or performance anymore. It’s about rankings, trophies, and the next level. 🔹 Art vs. Sport Is dance an art form or a sport? Audrey and I unpack what happens when artistry meets scoring systems, competitions, and physical wear-and-tear. 🔹 Pointe Shoes & PT Injuries, physical therapy, cross-training… Dancers train like athletes. The toll on young bodies is real—and often overlooked. 🔹 A Week in the Life Audrey lays out a typical schedule for a serious dancer. Spoiler: It’s basically a part-time job, plus school, minus the paycheck. 🔹 The Passion Snowball What happens when you see your kid light up on stage… and suddenly, you’re all-in on extra classes, private coaching, and endless weekends? 🔹 The $25,000 Season Audrey shares real numbers: tuition, travel, shoes ($16K just on pointe!). We talk budgets, side hustles, and sacrifices parents make to keep it going. 🔹 The Disney Vacation of Youth Sports? A listener hot take compares competitive dance to an overpriced family trip—except this one’s on repeat, and no one’s exactly relaxed. 🔹 Dance Debt is a Thing Second mortgages. Drained savings. Audrey says it’s often the middle class with access to credit who get hit the hardest. 🔹 “But My Kid Loves It…” We ask the big question: Would they still love it if it cost a fraction of what you’re paying? Are parents justifying sunk costs with emotion? 🔹 Private Lessons Pressure Whether it’s ballet, baseball, or band—everyone’s scrambling for the edge. Audrey sees competitive parenting as the real driving force. 🔹 What She Wishes She Knew Thirteen years in, Audrey has advice: delay the serious stuff, let them explore other passions, and remember—kids can love more than one thing. 🔥 Plus: The economic reality check no one wants to talk about… and why youth sports organizations may be forced to pivot if families can’t keep up.

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