Aaron Doughty

Yeah, it always trips me up because my old shadow work coach, he would tell me, safety is not an emotion, it's a concept. And I started thinking about this because I'm like, because we say it, I've said it many times on this podcast, like feeling safe, feeling safe, feeling safe. But subconsciously, some of us may only feel safe in certain toxic dynamics, which it's like, is that really safe?

Yeah, it always trips me up because my old shadow work coach, he would tell me, safety is not an emotion, it's a concept. And I started thinking about this because I'm like, because we say it, I've said it many times on this podcast, like feeling safe, feeling safe, feeling safe. But subconsciously, some of us may only feel safe in certain toxic dynamics, which it's like, is that really safe?

Yeah, it always trips me up because my old shadow work coach, he would tell me, safety is not an emotion, it's a concept. And I started thinking about this because I'm like, because we say it, I've said it many times on this podcast, like feeling safe, feeling safe, feeling safe. But subconsciously, some of us may only feel safe in certain toxic dynamics, which it's like, is that really safe?

Which is an interesting thing to contemplate because it's like someone may be around someone that has a regulated nervous system and they're not used to someone with a regulated nervous system. So that may bring up stuff in them. Which doesn't make sense because it's like, well, they're safe.

Which is an interesting thing to contemplate because it's like someone may be around someone that has a regulated nervous system and they're not used to someone with a regulated nervous system. So that may bring up stuff in them. Which doesn't make sense because it's like, well, they're safe.

Which is an interesting thing to contemplate because it's like someone may be around someone that has a regulated nervous system and they're not used to someone with a regulated nervous system. So that may bring up stuff in them. Which doesn't make sense because it's like, well, they're safe.

But it's like now there's other emotions coming up to be processed because they finally feel safe enough to let it come up. And when people come to my live events, people can shift a lot because I think it's not the magic of what I say. It's literally because I think a lot of people have watched my YouTube videos and they feel safe with me. So when they come, their guards go down.

But it's like now there's other emotions coming up to be processed because they finally feel safe enough to let it come up. And when people come to my live events, people can shift a lot because I think it's not the magic of what I say. It's literally because I think a lot of people have watched my YouTube videos and they feel safe with me. So when they come, their guards go down.

But it's like now there's other emotions coming up to be processed because they finally feel safe enough to let it come up. And when people come to my live events, people can shift a lot because I think it's not the magic of what I say. It's literally because I think a lot of people have watched my YouTube videos and they feel safe with me. So when they come, their guards go down.

Healing happens in the presence of an empathetic witness. So if I'm coaching someone on stage and I'm just present with them and I'm not judging them, I'm not trying to change them, and then they have a big breakthrough, stuff may come up. Uncomfortable emotions may come up, but it's because they're allowed to come up because... There's not that old codependent pattern or something.

Healing happens in the presence of an empathetic witness. So if I'm coaching someone on stage and I'm just present with them and I'm not judging them, I'm not trying to change them, and then they have a big breakthrough, stuff may come up. Uncomfortable emotions may come up, but it's because they're allowed to come up because... There's not that old codependent pattern or something.

Healing happens in the presence of an empathetic witness. So if I'm coaching someone on stage and I'm just present with them and I'm not judging them, I'm not trying to change them, and then they have a big breakthrough, stuff may come up. Uncomfortable emotions may come up, but it's because they're allowed to come up because... There's not that old codependent pattern or something.

But anyways, the reason I mention it, it's a fascinating thing to me because I'm still exploring in my mind, how do I describe this? That's why I was curious.

But anyways, the reason I mention it, it's a fascinating thing to me because I'm still exploring in my mind, how do I describe this? That's why I was curious.

But anyways, the reason I mention it, it's a fascinating thing to me because I'm still exploring in my mind, how do I describe this? That's why I was curious.

It's interesting. When you think about that idea of being attractive or having magnetic energy or wanting acceptance from everybody, the truth is, in our minds, we may think that's what we want. We want everyone to like us, but do you really want everyone to like you? Like, do you want sociopaths to like you? Do you want narcissists to like you? You don't want everybody to like you.

It's interesting. When you think about that idea of being attractive or having magnetic energy or wanting acceptance from everybody, the truth is, in our minds, we may think that's what we want. We want everyone to like us, but do you really want everyone to like you? Like, do you want sociopaths to like you? Do you want narcissists to like you? You don't want everybody to like you.

It's interesting. When you think about that idea of being attractive or having magnetic energy or wanting acceptance from everybody, the truth is, in our minds, we may think that's what we want. We want everyone to like us, but do you really want everyone to like you? Like, do you want sociopaths to like you? Do you want narcissists to like you? You don't want everybody to like you.

But in the mind, that can be like as a survival mechanism, the belief. So when you start to become okay with people not resonating with you, knowing that when other people don't resonate with you, it's actually something that could be celebrated instead of like avoided because of the abandonment wound or whatever it is.

But in the mind, that can be like as a survival mechanism, the belief. So when you start to become okay with people not resonating with you, knowing that when other people don't resonate with you, it's actually something that could be celebrated instead of like avoided because of the abandonment wound or whatever it is.