Abby

I don't really understand why that is or if other people feel that way.

But if people are like, you hypocrite.

It's like, yeah, we all like change our minds or we evolve or we, you know, wish we would have done things differently.

I feel like regret is also something that is like kind of like you're not supposed to have regrets, which obviously like you can't let your regrets like chain you back or hold you down.

But I think it's really admirable that she's willing to just like publicly be like,

yeah, I'm wondering if I made the right decision or like everyone can look at me and like envy where I'm at right now, but do they know that I'm envying them back?

And I think that takes a lot of, that takes so much bravery.

And it's also, I think the other thing that, the thing that stood out to me most in listening to this song is that her acknowledging that like her decision had a cost

because I feel like a lot of the times this this maybe is an American thing probably where it's like you can have it all you can be it all you can do it all and I feel like this messaging is I hear it more geared towards like moms like you can do it all you can have it all you can have the career you can be the best mom you can do all these things and I also think that women have a unique pressure to to like I feel like just naturally

I don't know if everyone feels this way, but like there's always this like quiet voice.

It's like you're not enough.

You're not doing enough.

You're not, you know, meeting the standards that you need to do.

Like there's more you can do and comparison, all this stuff.

And so her acknowledging like every decision has a cost.

is refreshing.

I told you when you started talking when you sent that song to me it reminded me of Dani Austin who's like another creator and also like mega business owner.

Her admitting that she like in her own words she said something about like how she blew up her life like trying to have it all.

And for me as a listener hearing that it felt like a deep sigh of relief because it's just not true that you can have it all.

And it doesn't mean that one decision is right and one decision is wrong.