Abby

It doesn't mean that career is wrong and motherhood immediately is right or vice versa.

Totally.

Like, it just means that there's a cost and you have to kind of weigh those constantly.

And I feel like that's what motherhood is.

Like, we're both working moms.

And I feel like I'm always kind of on this teeter-totter of, like, how do we balance that?

And, like, what – and which –

like what cost is too great where we need to make adjustments.

And then this benefit, I'm not seeing it here.

So then we got to make adjustments the other way.

I don't know if that makes sense.

i don't know it's so hard i don't know what i'm trying to say no i think it makes sense and also hearing from your perspective too like you were career driven at one point you had these like high aspirations in like the career area and like you still do but it's like i almost feel like there's maybe two different people listening to this podcast because for me like

I actually never had career ambitions like I did before I got married and then I feel like when I got married I was just like well when are we having kids because then I like can't I felt like you said it I felt like I couldn't start my life until I had kids because that was like kind of like my like tunnel vision like I was like gotta have kids gotta have kids it's like I don't know why I literally it was just made that way like literally in high school I remember just being like

whose babies can I watch?

Like all the time.

And I just felt like I couldn't get, like, I feel like that time, three years of after getting married, I was just like, which isn't a good place to be either.

Like, I feel like there's a good thing to be said about like contentment and also just like, yeah, enjoying early marriage and not like rushing into all that stuff.

But like, because I didn't have like huge career ambitions, I feel like

it's like women have to decide, right?

Like, what are you going to do?