Abby

And like we already knew then that we wanted to get married and like soon.

So we're like, we want to just prioritize this marriage, like our marriage over career.

And I think it was really good for us to make that decision really early on because it just made everything else really easy, honestly.

And let me tell you, people were, like, worried in my life.

Like, Abby, you're going to give this up.

Like, this is, like, you really, like, you've done this since you were in second grade.

Like, you were really, like, shooting for this.

And I just remember just being like, I didn't, I didn't grieve it.

Which that doesn't mean that some people won't make sacrifices, that they're like, this was hard and I really miss it.

And like to this day, like I still love theater and I still like miss, like Matt and I saw Wicked live.

And we told you that we like literally sobbed both of us when the opening number came in.

Cause it just like brought something awake inside of us.

We're like, oh, I like miss that passion, that time of our lives.

But like to consciously make that,

hand off early on like it was pretty different and i think people were like what but it made everything really easy because we're like well yeah that's if that's the cost i don't want to pay it and yeah i think that a lot of things in life are like that yeah so that to say like me saying like you can't have it all it's like you cannot you yourself are 100 you can't give 100 to everything and if you do you're just going to feel like you're just going to constantly be beating yourself up

Yeah.

That doesn't mean you don't work.

That doesn't mean you don't have kids.

That just means that you are constantly in this tension.

Totally.