Abby

And that's part of it.

Aspects I think it's because they're so little they don't understand that like exactly what's happening So it's like why is my mom here and like not playing with me?

Like I think about that sometimes and I feel like now just like having that conversation I'm just like I'm working and like then they're like super good with it.

Yes But yeah, I think that's just a tension that I'll live in constantly be evaluating and that's okay And it's gonna change and it's gonna look differently but to summarize this

like Abby was saying if you're dating and you're like you just picture your whole life with this person and you're just like no just not the right time or like I need to do x y and z first I don't know I think the timeline is here nor there I remember that being a huge thing when we got married because everyone's like you have to at least graduate college first and I was like no we're not going to and

Matt never graduated.

And having kids is actually great.

Like I feel like there's a lot of,

that's the thing that's hard i keep i keep quoting these other things but remember the thing that was like huge with like chapel roan which i hope she and they don't mean any hate to her but i honestly think i just disagreed with her but i know she said all of her friends that had kids young or something like that or were miserable and i think that it's just so interesting because that's like her perspective of like looking in as like and i think that also can reflect on like us as young moms like how are we presenting to people that don't have kids yeah

Like, it's not totally on her, right?

Like, if you're griping and moaning about it in front of people that don't have kids, like, that's not...

it's not a good thing to do.

Like, honestly, like there's a time and a place to be like, this is really hard right now.

Like we're in a stage where we're not sleeping.

That's really, really hard.

And you should have space to say that.

I think that community is with other moms.

And I think that's really great.

And it's not that you can't say that, but it's just like the messaging should be positive first.

And like, this is awesome and super rewarding.