Abby

you know i don't know when i'm like in a down world i'm like i think i just need to like curl my hair yeah do a little mascara and then get out get out of my space and be with other people and that really kind of helps like get your thoughts out of your own head yeah yeah that's good thanks for saying that that question hi guys this is kamari i have been watching you all for quite some time my question is how do you find the strength to keep going as a mother

It's fresh for me still.

But yeah, you saying that does reveal in me.

I feel like there was a lot of times, especially at the beginning, where I was like, I'm not showing up at all for my kids because I'm just so wrapped up in my own grief.

I just felt like I couldn't show up for them.

I think you gave me this advice, Abby.

So this was good.

But you were like, it's good for them to see you grieving.

It's good for them to see you, like, sad.

I don't know how you said it.

And I think other friends gave me that advice as well because I was, like, so stuck in this.

Like, I can't be around them if I'm just such a bother.

Like, if I'm just so down.

And so then it was, like, me retreating.

And, like, Matt was doing everything for the kids.

And that's a privilege because, like, this mom who called in, like, she might not have that as an option.

And I just want to say, like, it's okay because I needed to hear this too.

It's okay for your kids to see you down.

It's, I think, important to follow up a conversation, though, about, like, what you are down about in a child-appropriate way.

And finding ways to do that was really important for me because I think this is how kids also start to learn how to cope with their own feelings.