Abby

Knowing that – I've heard it said before, too, like, when kids experience, like, an emotion and they feel like –

mom or dad never had like they never experienced this they don't know what it's like and it can that can feel really confusing and lonely for kids so like saying like mom feels sad right now and I would like tell them like why I was sad in a child appropriate way and that like felt like a relief to me that I didn't have to just completely disappear because I was just like sad and it also feel like for them like then they had a frame of reference where it's like okay like then they would bring it up to me and so I feel like that was like

I'm not explaining this well at all.

But basically don't feel like you have to shield your kids from that.

I do think that you should reflect like how am I going to like especially with some of the things you can be grieving can be really like really heavy.

And maybe not necessarily like because also I was like if I start to talk about this to like my two and three year old I could really unload on them and that's not their job.

So just like do this thoughtfully but

like honorable thing that's not you know and i think that's a good reminder like grief isn't bad like it's coming from a place of like love and sadness i think have grace on yourself too um that's so hard to do sometimes but just like know that this is a tough season it's not going to look like this always

So for me, like, your question was about keeping going.

And it's, like, I think set small goals for yourself, like, as a mom would be, like, just a really – depending on how old your kids are, it's, like, I want to do one guided activity with them today.

Or I want to do 10 minutes of just, like, play with them.

And then just, like, having those, like, little goals to start help get you back in motion too.

And then you can also just be, like, I showed up for them.

And you don't have to just deal with that guilt of, like –

maybe i can't be as fun or as like lively or imaginative like i was like i can't use my imagination right now like i just remember feeling like i can't just like run around and be goofy but like i'm like i can sit down and do play-doh with them for like 10 minutes or things like that so just set small goals too because like eventually

Three weeks into small goals, you'll find yourself in a better place.

Like, I guarantee it.

And it fluctuates, too, as I'm sure anyone who's gone through grief knows.

Yeah.

But they might feel confused if it's not, like –