Abby

I do think that you should reflect like how am I going to like especially with some of the things you can be grieving can be really like really heavy.

And maybe not necessarily like because also I was like if I start to talk about this to like my two and three year old I could really unload on them and that's not their job.

So just like do this thoughtfully but

like honorable thing that's not you know and i think that's a good reminder like grief isn't bad like it's coming from a place of like love and sadness i think have grace on yourself too um that's so hard to do sometimes but just like know that this is a tough season it's not going to look like this always

So for me, like, your question was about keeping going.

And it's, like, I think set small goals for yourself, like, as a mom would be, like, just a really – depending on how old your kids are, it's, like, I want to do one guided activity with them today.

Or I want to do 10 minutes of just, like, play with them.

And then just, like, having those, like, little goals to start help get you back in motion too.

And then you can also just be, like, I showed up for them.

And you don't have to just deal with that guilt of, like –

maybe i can't be as fun or as like lively or imaginative like i was like i can't use my imagination right now like i just remember feeling like i can't just like run around and be goofy but like i'm like i can sit down and do play-doh with them for like 10 minutes or things like that so just set small goals too because like eventually

Three weeks into small goals, you'll find yourself in a better place.

Like, I guarantee it.

And it fluctuates, too, as I'm sure anyone who's gone through grief knows.

Yeah.

But they might feel confused if it's not, like –

a conversation if that makes sense oh for sure yeah and because i think kids tend to put things on themselves like they're how their parents are doing like on themselves so yeah what are some tips or advice that you have for when you just found out that you're pregnant when you just found out you're pregnant what do you do oh you probably sweat a lot

I'm pregnant.

Well, I also knew that my mom would be so mad if I knew.

Yeah.