Abby

And also like I also don't want people to compare themselves to me like mom's watching this being like, oh my gosh, like she works and she cooks and she cleans and it's like, no, we do have help.

So I don't want like that's an unhealthy comparison if we're not honest about that.

So.

Yeah.

And we're really thankful to that.

And that doesn't diminish the fact that we also work really, really hard.

You miss life before kids and feel guilty about it.

I agree.

I actually did too early on.

Like I loved my kids so much, but I was just like, how can I?

It's a big adjustment to make.

And it's like you love your kids so much, but you're like, there's a part of you that's like, man, there's a lot of freedom I had before that I don't have now.

I do think that if you're like early on, like, and you have a baby, um,

and you're feeling guilty about missing that, I just think you need to give it a little bit more time.

I really think that you will fully adjust.

And now I love, I fully love our life and I don't miss.

Obviously I look back really fondly on aspects of our life before kids, but I don't miss it.

And so there was a time though when I was missing it and you just have to grieve that change.

But I also want to shout you out Matt whenever we are around people with babies which is so funny because I feel like you say on this podcast all the time like I don't like the baby stage.

I don't like the babies.