Adam Galinsky

Yeah, I think that's exactly right. It's not just thinking about the choice. Like one of my favorite movies is a movie called Out of Sight by Steven Soderbergh. And it's got George Clooney and Jennifer Lopez and so many amazing actors, but there's One point where Vin Rains says to George Clooney, they put a gun on you, you're going to prison.

Yeah, I think that's exactly right. It's not just thinking about the choice. Like one of my favorite movies is a movie called Out of Sight by Steven Soderbergh. And it's got George Clooney and Jennifer Lopez and so many amazing actors, but there's One point where Vin Rains says to George Clooney, they put a gun on you, you're going to prison.

Yeah, I think that's exactly right. It's not just thinking about the choice. Like one of my favorite movies is a movie called Out of Sight by Steven Soderbergh. And it's got George Clooney and Jennifer Lopez and so many amazing actors, but there's One point where Vin Rains says to George Clooney, they put a gun on you, you're going to prison.

He's like, they put a gun on you, you still have a choice, right? And this idea that sometimes we don't see choices and options. And part of that sometimes is just the routines that we follow through. And so part of it is how can we see the bigger picture? This is where visionary comes in. I'll give you one example, which I really love from my kids. So I take my kids to school every morning.

He's like, they put a gun on you, you still have a choice, right? And this idea that sometimes we don't see choices and options. And part of that sometimes is just the routines that we follow through. And so part of it is how can we see the bigger picture? This is where visionary comes in. I'll give you one example, which I really love from my kids. So I take my kids to school every morning.

He's like, they put a gun on you, you still have a choice, right? And this idea that sometimes we don't see choices and options. And part of that sometimes is just the routines that we follow through. And so part of it is how can we see the bigger picture? This is where visionary comes in. I'll give you one example, which I really love from my kids. So I take my kids to school every morning.

My wife picks them up in the afternoon. This is a special time we have together. And my one son was in a kindergarten. He was in the second floor, and my first grader was on the third floor. So naturally, we'd walk up to the second floor, drop off the kindergartner, and then walk up to the third floor, drop off the first grader. But there is a big problem.

My wife picks them up in the afternoon. This is a special time we have together. And my one son was in a kindergarten. He was in the second floor, and my first grader was on the third floor. So naturally, we'd walk up to the second floor, drop off the kindergartner, and then walk up to the third floor, drop off the first grader. But there is a big problem.

My wife picks them up in the afternoon. This is a special time we have together. And my one son was in a kindergarten. He was in the second floor, and my first grader was on the third floor. So naturally, we'd walk up to the second floor, drop off the kindergartner, and then walk up to the third floor, drop off the first grader. But there is a big problem.

The problem is my kindergartner, the second born, is more relaxed. He likes to take his time. He liked having a big goodbye ritual with me. And my older son, older son, first born, type A, he hates the possibility of being even late. Even if he still had 10 minutes to get to his classroom, he'd be like, Aiden, hurry up. He would get so incensed and I would get so frustrated.

The problem is my kindergartner, the second born, is more relaxed. He likes to take his time. He liked having a big goodbye ritual with me. And my older son, older son, first born, type A, he hates the possibility of being even late. Even if he still had 10 minutes to get to his classroom, he'd be like, Aiden, hurry up. He would get so incensed and I would get so frustrated.

The problem is my kindergartner, the second born, is more relaxed. He likes to take his time. He liked having a big goodbye ritual with me. And my older son, older son, first born, type A, he hates the possibility of being even late. Even if he still had 10 minutes to get to his classroom, he'd be like, Aiden, hurry up. He would get so incensed and I would get so frustrated.

I'd be like, Asher, just be patient. And then he would storm up to his classroom. So after about, I don't know, a few weeks of this, I was just thinking about how could I make this go more smoothly today? And then I realized we actually have a choice. And I said to the boys, I said, hey, I have an idea. Why don't we try something different today? I'll drop Asher off first.

I'd be like, Asher, just be patient. And then he would storm up to his classroom. So after about, I don't know, a few weeks of this, I was just thinking about how could I make this go more smoothly today? And then I realized we actually have a choice. And I said to the boys, I said, hey, I have an idea. Why don't we try something different today? I'll drop Asher off first.

I'd be like, Asher, just be patient. And then he would storm up to his classroom. So after about, I don't know, a few weeks of this, I was just thinking about how could I make this go more smoothly today? And then I realized we actually have a choice. And I said to the boys, I said, hey, I have an idea. Why don't we try something different today? I'll drop Asher off first.

So I'll walk up to the third floor, drop Asher off first, then walk and do Aiden on the second floor. And it solved everything. So Asher was now happy. He got to class without stress on time. He'd give me a hug goodbye. Now he just gives me a high five. And then we walked downstairs. Aiden got to take as much time as he wanted. Big hugs. And to me, I was in my own world.

So I'll walk up to the third floor, drop Asher off first, then walk and do Aiden on the second floor. And it solved everything. So Asher was now happy. He got to class without stress on time. He'd give me a hug goodbye. Now he just gives me a high five. And then we walked downstairs. Aiden got to take as much time as he wanted. Big hugs. And to me, I was in my own world.

So I'll walk up to the third floor, drop Asher off first, then walk and do Aiden on the second floor. And it solved everything. So Asher was now happy. He got to class without stress on time. He'd give me a hug goodbye. Now he just gives me a high five. And then we walked downstairs. Aiden got to take as much time as he wanted. Big hugs. And to me, I was in my own world.

I didn't even recognize that, like, like the teacher was observing Asher's behavior in the dynamic. And so about day three of our new routine, she said to me, she's like, wow, it's really an amazing success dropping Asher off first. And I was like, oh my God, you noticed all that? But even she noticed what a difference it made. And that's, I think, a great example of every time we're in a

I didn't even recognize that, like, like the teacher was observing Asher's behavior in the dynamic. And so about day three of our new routine, she said to me, she's like, wow, it's really an amazing success dropping Asher off first. And I was like, oh my God, you noticed all that? But even she noticed what a difference it made. And that's, I think, a great example of every time we're in a