Adam Grant

You don't want it.

I want to talk about some of the findings of that research, actually, because I think they're very relevant.

Let's go.

Let's do it.

But no, I want to hear the rest of what you found first.

Yeah, where, okay, this makes a ton of sense, where you're signaling that it's time for the conversation to end before you've actually said it out loud.

Yeah, time's running out.

I better spill.

A little bit, not well.

Much harder when you're in the same captive location.

Oh, I like them a lot.

I think...

Actually, to go back to the Gottmans, in Gottman language, you're making a bid.

You're making a bed.

Here's a bid.

I'm sending you a message that I would love to collaborate in wrapping up this conversation.

And unless you're oblivious or from a different culture or neurodivergent, you're going to pick up that signal and start collaborating to close it out because it would be very awkward to track me back into it as I'm trying to leave.

Yeah, I like that a lot.

Yeah, I think a lot of these situations may, I think the caveats might capture some of the situations where it's hard because you initiate the collaboration and the other person denies the bid as opposed to accepting it.

What do I do?