Adam Grant

Yeah, I'm curious, because you're now, you approach this conversation from where I normally am, which is too much preaching, prosecuting, and politicking.

How are you thinking about when those are useful modes and when they're not?

Oh, oh, say more.

Armor against what?

Anxiety, uncertainty?

Yeah.

And so...

The distinction then comes down to something very similar to where we landed with shame, which is these, if you're going to use any of these modes of thinking and communicating, they should be aligned with your values, not just your current emotional state.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And you know, it's, it's interesting as you talk about armor, I think the, I think that I never realized it until now, but prosecutor mode is armor for me because it's, it's costly to,

I think it's costly to give up on things that you believe, especially if you've based life choices on them.

Yeah.

I'm thinking about Robert Abelson having written that we start to treat our beliefs like possessions over time.

We display them on mantles.

Hoard and protect.

Yeah, exactly.

And...

I think once you get invested in an opinion and turn it into a belief, it becomes a way of life.

And so sometimes I find myself just leaping into prosecutor mode because it's easier to not have to give up a cherished possession.