Adam Lane Smith

That's awesome.

Couples can come back from an infidelity, usually.

To do that, the person who committed the infidelity needs to have an almost religious style conversion, not to an actual religion, mind you, but the way they live their life, the way that they follow their ethics or don't, the way that they live with external accountability and visibility.

They need to have a full conversion of their life into an almost new person.

and be living so distinctly that their partner can look at them and say, I don't have to trust that you're different because you are different with every human around you.

You're different.

You have such accountability.

You have such desire for openness and intimacy and trust.

You share details.

You share everything with me, and I can finally let go and trust you.

And then your brain does something magical.

It's called differentiation.

It draws a line between who you were and the new person and says, these are different people.

Let's not worry about old things because that was someone else.

Wow.

And then the partner can truly let go.

It's a whole process.

That takes me about eight sessions with most of my clients.

How would you, if you were going to pretend I'm with her, we're going to have a prenup conversation.

What's your opening sentence for a prenup?