Alex Elle

And so it was interesting to have that, to start having those conversations with her as she was willing to tap into the work that she has to do and the healing that she has to do and had to do. And I think that that's, I know that there's a deep privilege in having a parent who can look at their stuff, even if it's 30 years later and be like, I'm sorry. And I really screwed up.

And so it was interesting to have that, to start having those conversations with her as she was willing to tap into the work that she has to do and the healing that she has to do and had to do. And I think that that's, I know that there's a deep privilege in having a parent who can look at their stuff, even if it's 30 years later and be like, I'm sorry. And I really screwed up.

And so it was interesting to have that, to start having those conversations with her as she was willing to tap into the work that she has to do and the healing that she has to do and had to do. And I think that that's, I know that there's a deep privilege in having a parent who can look at their stuff, even if it's 30 years later and be like, I'm sorry. And I really screwed up.

It's unusual. Yeah. Super proud of her for that. And also there's a lot of grieving that happens because then I see her with my children. And she's an amazing grandmother. And in the beginning, I was like, oh, so you do know how to act. I used to laugh about that, you know. But like now it feels a lot lighter. But there was a point where I was like, whoa, that's hard to see.

It's unusual. Yeah. Super proud of her for that. And also there's a lot of grieving that happens because then I see her with my children. And she's an amazing grandmother. And in the beginning, I was like, oh, so you do know how to act. I used to laugh about that, you know. But like now it feels a lot lighter. But there was a point where I was like, whoa, that's hard to see.

It's unusual. Yeah. Super proud of her for that. And also there's a lot of grieving that happens because then I see her with my children. And she's an amazing grandmother. And in the beginning, I was like, oh, so you do know how to act. I used to laugh about that, you know. But like now it feels a lot lighter. But there was a point where I was like, whoa, that's hard to see.

Hmm. Yes, that is what my mom was doing. She was a single mom for a while, a long time before she met my stepdad. She was trying to climb her way up the corporate ladder and all those things. And so she was trying to survive. She was trying to raise me. She was trying to do the best she could with what she knew. And she didn't know much about love and parenting before. She was leading by example.

Hmm. Yes, that is what my mom was doing. She was a single mom for a while, a long time before she met my stepdad. She was trying to climb her way up the corporate ladder and all those things. And so she was trying to survive. She was trying to raise me. She was trying to do the best she could with what she knew. And she didn't know much about love and parenting before. She was leading by example.

Hmm. Yes, that is what my mom was doing. She was a single mom for a while, a long time before she met my stepdad. She was trying to climb her way up the corporate ladder and all those things. And so she was trying to survive. She was trying to raise me. She was trying to do the best she could with what she knew. And she didn't know much about love and parenting before. She was leading by example.

She was leading by example, which was not a great example. We all are. Right? And I think there is healing that can happen in survival mode, but that has to come with self-awareness. That has to come with understanding that you're hurting and taking a step back from trying to survive. but trying to hold yourself during that survival. I often say that adults also need self-soothing.

She was leading by example, which was not a great example. We all are. Right? And I think there is healing that can happen in survival mode, but that has to come with self-awareness. That has to come with understanding that you're hurting and taking a step back from trying to survive. but trying to hold yourself during that survival. I often say that adults also need self-soothing.

She was leading by example, which was not a great example. We all are. Right? And I think there is healing that can happen in survival mode, but that has to come with self-awareness. That has to come with understanding that you're hurting and taking a step back from trying to survive. but trying to hold yourself during that survival. I often say that adults also need self-soothing.

We don't normally take ourselves up on that, but we need that too. I mean, slowing down in order to see ourselves is important.

We don't normally take ourselves up on that, but we need that too. I mean, slowing down in order to see ourselves is important.

We don't normally take ourselves up on that, but we need that too. I mean, slowing down in order to see ourselves is important.

I would say. And I think that that's what healing is. It's a love offering to the world. When we heal our world, we start to heal the world. When we see ourselves, we start to see other people.

I would say. And I think that that's what healing is. It's a love offering to the world. When we heal our world, we start to heal the world. When we see ourselves, we start to see other people.

I would say. And I think that that's what healing is. It's a love offering to the world. When we heal our world, we start to heal the world. When we see ourselves, we start to see other people.

For so long, especially if you grew up not feeling seen, not feeling safe or supported, it is really, really, really challenging to be in relationships that are healthy, that are rooted in healthy communication, that aren't rooted in codependency.

For so long, especially if you grew up not feeling seen, not feeling safe or supported, it is really, really, really challenging to be in relationships that are healthy, that are rooted in healthy communication, that aren't rooted in codependency.