Alex Elle

For so long, especially if you grew up not feeling seen, not feeling safe or supported, it is really, really, really challenging to be in relationships that are healthy, that are rooted in healthy communication, that aren't rooted in codependency.

It's all these things that you just have to learn on your own, which makes the healing even harder because you're like, I have no idea what I'm doing or where to start or how to even... how to even begin to see myself. And so a lot of my work when I'm teaching and coaching people is like, what do you want? And what do you see? Who are you? What do you need?

It's all these things that you just have to learn on your own, which makes the healing even harder because you're like, I have no idea what I'm doing or where to start or how to even... how to even begin to see myself. And so a lot of my work when I'm teaching and coaching people is like, what do you want? And what do you see? Who are you? What do you need?

It's all these things that you just have to learn on your own, which makes the healing even harder because you're like, I have no idea what I'm doing or where to start or how to even... how to even begin to see myself. And so a lot of my work when I'm teaching and coaching people is like, what do you want? And what do you see? Who are you? What do you need?

Like those basic questions, those back to basic questions has helped so many people kickstart their healing because no one has ever asked them, what do you want? Right.

Like those basic questions, those back to basic questions has helped so many people kickstart their healing because no one has ever asked them, what do you want? Right.

Like those basic questions, those back to basic questions has helped so many people kickstart their healing because no one has ever asked them, what do you want? Right.

You are absolutely saying that right. You are absolutely saying that right. I think passing the baton, like you said, is absolutely what it is. It is backwards and forwards. Cause my mom will say now, like I inspire her and that can be heavy too.

You are absolutely saying that right. You are absolutely saying that right. I think passing the baton, like you said, is absolutely what it is. It is backwards and forwards. Cause my mom will say now, like I inspire her and that can be heavy too.

You are absolutely saying that right. You are absolutely saying that right. I think passing the baton, like you said, is absolutely what it is. It is backwards and forwards. Cause my mom will say now, like I inspire her and that can be heavy too.

Cause it's like, I wish I had someone who inspired me, you know, but I know that the healing that I'm doing is not just for myself and a big part of grace and compassion is is acceptance for who people are, where they are, and not trying to change the outcome. Because things sometimes are what they are.

Cause it's like, I wish I had someone who inspired me, you know, but I know that the healing that I'm doing is not just for myself and a big part of grace and compassion is is acceptance for who people are, where they are, and not trying to change the outcome. Because things sometimes are what they are.

Cause it's like, I wish I had someone who inspired me, you know, but I know that the healing that I'm doing is not just for myself and a big part of grace and compassion is is acceptance for who people are, where they are, and not trying to change the outcome. Because things sometimes are what they are.

Well, for years, I didn't have that reciprocity. And I would get really, really frustrated. So boundaries were really important. And talks with my husband were really important. Talks with my close sister friends, really important. So community again, extremely important to be able to be like, wow, they are just not getting it. They don't get it. And a big part of that again is acceptance.

Well, for years, I didn't have that reciprocity. And I would get really, really frustrated. So boundaries were really important. And talks with my husband were really important. Talks with my close sister friends, really important. So community again, extremely important to be able to be like, wow, they are just not getting it. They don't get it. And a big part of that again is acceptance.

Well, for years, I didn't have that reciprocity. And I would get really, really frustrated. So boundaries were really important. And talks with my husband were really important. Talks with my close sister friends, really important. So community again, extremely important to be able to be like, wow, they are just not getting it. They don't get it. And a big part of that again is acceptance.

We may not ever get what we need from the people who raised us. Like ever. And that is a tough pill to swallow, but we can't force people and we shouldn't want to force people to change and be who we want them to be because it'll make us feel better. I don't want any disingenuous behavior in my sphere. Interesting. Right? And so that doesn't make it easier. It's still really hard and hurtful.

We may not ever get what we need from the people who raised us. Like ever. And that is a tough pill to swallow, but we can't force people and we shouldn't want to force people to change and be who we want them to be because it'll make us feel better. I don't want any disingenuous behavior in my sphere. Interesting. Right? And so that doesn't make it easier. It's still really hard and hurtful.

We may not ever get what we need from the people who raised us. Like ever. And that is a tough pill to swallow, but we can't force people and we shouldn't want to force people to change and be who we want them to be because it'll make us feel better. I don't want any disingenuous behavior in my sphere. Interesting. Right? And so that doesn't make it easier. It's still really hard and hurtful.

And there's a deep grieving that we go through when our parents, the people who brought us into this world, are incapable of seeing us and meeting us. But we have to remember what our work is. Our work isn't to change people by over-talking things and forcing and trying to get them to understand. Our work is to lead by example. Everything else is a bonus. Focusing on our healing is...