Alex Elle

And there's a deep grieving that we go through when our parents, the people who brought us into this world, are incapable of seeing us and meeting us. But we have to remember what our work is. Our work isn't to change people by over-talking things and forcing and trying to get them to understand. Our work is to lead by example. Everything else is a bonus. Focusing on our healing is...

And there's a deep grieving that we go through when our parents, the people who brought us into this world, are incapable of seeing us and meeting us. But we have to remember what our work is. Our work isn't to change people by over-talking things and forcing and trying to get them to understand. Our work is to lead by example. Everything else is a bonus. Focusing on our healing is...

all we can do. We live in a world that tells us that we have to like control everything and that we have to know what we're doing and where we're going. And we don't, we may get lost along the way. We may feel lost more times than we feel found. And I think that that's a big part of the healing too, is like accepting when the journey takes us to a place where we're kind of disoriented.

all we can do. We live in a world that tells us that we have to like control everything and that we have to know what we're doing and where we're going. And we don't, we may get lost along the way. We may feel lost more times than we feel found. And I think that that's a big part of the healing too, is like accepting when the journey takes us to a place where we're kind of disoriented.

all we can do. We live in a world that tells us that we have to like control everything and that we have to know what we're doing and where we're going. And we don't, we may get lost along the way. We may feel lost more times than we feel found. And I think that that's a big part of the healing too, is like accepting when the journey takes us to a place where we're kind of disoriented.

Like, how do we come back home to ourselves? And accept that, you know, my mom just can't meet me. And I'm going to have to walk this path alone.

Like, how do we come back home to ourselves? And accept that, you know, my mom just can't meet me. And I'm going to have to walk this path alone.

Like, how do we come back home to ourselves? And accept that, you know, my mom just can't meet me. And I'm going to have to walk this path alone.

We must be healed separate from the person who hurt us. Mm-hmm. Because if we are not, we are going to continuously be in these cycles of external validation and wanting the person to say sorry and wanting the person to... We can want those things. I'm not saying don't want those things, but there has to be acceptance when you don't get those things. That's the hard part. That's the healing work.

We must be healed separate from the person who hurt us. Mm-hmm. Because if we are not, we are going to continuously be in these cycles of external validation and wanting the person to say sorry and wanting the person to... We can want those things. I'm not saying don't want those things, but there has to be acceptance when you don't get those things. That's the hard part. That's the healing work.

We must be healed separate from the person who hurt us. Mm-hmm. Because if we are not, we are going to continuously be in these cycles of external validation and wanting the person to say sorry and wanting the person to... We can want those things. I'm not saying don't want those things, but there has to be acceptance when you don't get those things. That's the hard part. That's the healing work.

It's like, how do I accept this? This is fricking terrible. They were awful to me. They hurt me. They didn't validate me. They didn't raise me how I think I deserve to be raised. So a big part of my healing was accepting that hard work, still working through it, but changing my behavior with how I raise my children. and how I raise myself. Because as I parent my children, I am reparenting myself.

It's like, how do I accept this? This is fricking terrible. They were awful to me. They hurt me. They didn't validate me. They didn't raise me how I think I deserve to be raised. So a big part of my healing was accepting that hard work, still working through it, but changing my behavior with how I raise my children. and how I raise myself. Because as I parent my children, I am reparenting myself.

It's like, how do I accept this? This is fricking terrible. They were awful to me. They hurt me. They didn't validate me. They didn't raise me how I think I deserve to be raised. So a big part of my healing was accepting that hard work, still working through it, but changing my behavior with how I raise my children. and how I raise myself. Because as I parent my children, I am reparenting myself.

Yes. That's why all the crap.

Yes. That's why all the crap.

Yes. That's why all the crap.

Oh, those are big questions. Yeah.

Oh, those are big questions. Yeah.

Oh, those are big questions. Yeah.