Alex Partridge

Or do you want to go for lunch in an hour?

Or can you walk my dog tomorrow?

Rather than say yes straight away, I think it's the knee-jerk reaction for many people.

Give a non-answer that gives you more time to think about what you really want to do.

Because I think so many people have this kind of

internalized masked response when people ask something of them and they jump to yes when you can give a non answer which could be can i let you know tomorrow i'm not comfortable with

that idea, I don't know all the information, can I get back to you, are some examples.

And it's up to you to decide what's urgent.

Don't let somebody, maybe it's a boss, maybe it's somebody you don't know very well, pressure you into thinking that there's urgency to give a commitment

right now, you can make that decision yourself.

And by saying, can I let you know tomorrow, you're giving a non-answer, you're buying yourself time, which will enable you to then think about whether you actually want to do that thing or not, rather than letting the masked version of you lead the way, which often...

puts you in a position you don't really want to be in.

And it's very hard to turn a yes into a no.

It's easier to turn a can I think about it into a yes.

Yes.

Yeah, exactly.

It's so important to prioritize your own energy and your own well-being and what you want to do rather than being pressurized into doing something that you don't want to do.

Okay, number 21.

So this is one of the three that I think are going to help the most.

A mental health day.