Alex Partridge

Because they're a good indicator of actually who you really are, probably after being confused for many years because you felt like the need to shapeshift and adjust who you are in order to fit in.

So paying attention to what you do when you're on your own is probably the biggest self-awareness exercise that will help steer you into having a lot more self-understanding and making decisions that are better to your overall well-being.

so number two in one sentence pay attention to what you do when you are on your own good really good bit of advice so we are on the final one yeah the gold medal the gold medal so as i said at the beginning there were three that i think are going to help the most and this one is i think the one that's going to help the most and it is this

I used to think that being anxious in public was a sign that I was in the wrong place or that I was going to have a panic attack.

But I actually, upon reflection after my ADHD diagnosis, realized that it wasn't necessarily a heightened state of anxiety.

It was a state of overstimulation.

And I think to combat that is recognizing that feeling in yourself.

If you're at a social event, at a dinner, if the lights are too bright, if there's too much conversation going on, if you're feeling that feeling of overstimulation building, remove yourself from the situation.

Go to the bathroom.

Go to the toilet just for a minute or two.

Breathing exercises, shaking your hands, jumping on the spot if you need to, just for a couple of minutes.

Reset that nervous system.

Become regulated.

And then come back to the event.

having advocated for yourself privately bringing yourself down to a regulated state or even cry yeah that can calm you down yeah release that pent-up emotion that that you feel like you can't express at the dinner table

Gosh, I can't even imagine the fear.

There was a survivor did an interview recently.

Maybe it wasn't recently, but he described he was on one of the lifeboats.

And what you don't see in the film is how dark it went at the end.

And all you could hear, you couldn't see a thing, all you could hear through the pitch darkness was the screams and the panic as the ship went under and everyone with it.