Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

Recently, actually, something happened with me recently where a friend who doesn't live in the same city opened up about how she was feeling and certain struggles she was having, and it highlighted to me that I could have been a much better friend as of recently, and I haven't.

So I'm like, ooh.

This is prime example.

I realize that most of my interactions with her in the last couple of years have been very much on social media.

And then the few times we see each other, we're like, I miss you.

Why don't we spend more time together?

When I could just fucking pick up the phone and call her.

Sometimes it takes looking into yourself and saying, am I really a high value friend here?

And if you can see moments where you haven't been a high value friend, this is a good thing because there's something you can do about it.

You can then take that learning and be like, all right, I regret not being there for this person.

I regret not asking them more.

I regret not picking up the phone because sometimes it might be awkward or uncomfortable.

But the moment you pick up the phone, when you make that call, when you reach out, when you try and be there for your friend's needs, you start to feel so much better about yourself and

You feel that you're contributing to somebody's life.

You're offering legitimate value.

You're not just sending them a fucking funny video.

You're really there.

You're here to listen.

And then you start feeling this deep sense of connection and you start feeling like you've got this really deep place in the world.

When you contribute to those people around you, the ones that you care about,