Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

And a lot of the time we think, oh, we're so connected now.

We're not fucking connected, okay?

We're not.

When people are like, oh, we're so much more connected than we've ever been.

Are we, though, really?

Because when you look at social media, yeah, I can share what I'm doing to everyone, but

And there's way more people that can know what I'm doing on a day-to-day basis.

But is that connection or is that just me broadcasting things easier than how I would have been able to broadcast them to the world in the past?

But as far as connection, your friends sending you a funny video and a like, that's lovely, but that's not what's going to make you feel connected.

To feel connected, you have to go the extra mile and that's what's going to fulfill that deep human need.

So while all these superficial things are fine, they're not detrimental, they only become detrimental when you start replacing real connection with this much easier to replace superficial level of connection.

And that's why we feel so disconnected in an era where we're lying to ourselves saying that we are so connected.

So how are you providing high value to the people around you?

And you might say, nah, I've already ticked that box.

I'm a fucking Lord.

I'm a legend.

I'm very good at providing this kind of value.

And that's great.

But for a lot of us, including myself, I can look at situations and be like,

wow, I could have been a much better friend in that situation.