Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

this underlying need for connection is one of the crucial components to self-love and to self-worth and you might think well if I'm providing worth for someone else how is that directly making me feel worthy it's because of the connection that you create when you provide something of value and what I mean by of value you've got to provide something that is not easily replaceable

You might have heard me speak about this before, but I'm going to remind you of what I'm referring to here.

So when I talk about easily replaceable versus not easily replaceable, think of someone in your life that you think this person is a fucking high value friend and they are not easily replaceable.

Why are they not easily replaceable?

They're probably someone who will preempt your needs before you even ask for them.

There's someone who probably knows when something's off just by looking at you and they care and they ask and then they'll also ask again and they'll follow up.

There's someone who will offer to help without you having to ask for it.

There's someone who will listen to your bullshit 10 times in a row and not be judgmental or say, how can I be of help?

There's someone who you can have fun with.

There's someone who listens when you talk.

They genuinely listen.

They interact.

They contribute.

That's a high value friend.

A low value friend as far as interaction.

I'm not saying value in people.

You can say that everyone's worth the same, whatever you want.

But I'm saying as far as behaviors, they're high value behaviors.

Low value is something that's easily replaceable, easily repeatable.

So that's things like a like on social media.