Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

It's fizzled out.

You haven't hung out as friends.

So to me personally, that I wouldn't give any attention to and do not expect a happy birthday from your ex-boyfriend.

If he comes, that's, you know, a nice surprise that things are still great.

But if it doesn't, like I would have the bar of expectations for an ex messaging on my birthday.

So it's in hell, right?

Not because of anything negative, but it's like, I wouldn't expect that.

Okay.

Because I also don't necessarily text people that,

Even if I like someone, if I don't see them ever in our lives, if we don't have a present, like continuous relationship in each other's lives, not to be a selfish person, but I'm not messaging you on your birthday because...

then what does it mean?

It's a bit of a happy birthday.

We literally haven't spoken in years.

Like it's this token thing.

Like we're either in each other's lives or we're not.

And vice versa.

I have no expectation for someone to wish me a happy birthday if they are not presently in my life, even if we just message once in a while or can't.

Like there has to be some ongoing relationship for that to be the case.

That's me personally.

So if anyone ever feels that I've like jilted, like jilted towards me because I haven't messaged them, it's probably because we don't have a current friendship, right?