Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

And they're like, oh, not serious, not serious, not serious.

But if he knew that he would lose you and the relationship in

Do you think he'd be willing to change or do you think he'd be like, well, what a shame, I can't believe she's taking this so seriously and whatever, well, it's not meant to be, it's not meant to be, okay?

Because I just believe that if everything else is good with him except this one thing which is a deal breaker for you, then I would put all the cards on the table.

If you think, you know what, the fact that he isn't even willing to come to the table, I shouldn't have to ask, I'm kind of out, then there's your answer and that's okay too.

You might just know…

like deep down that given what you've seen, you just don't want to do like the pulling of the plug.

And a lot of people stay in a relationship because the thought of being single and starting over and trying again, it's daunting.

It's fucking daunting.

So I understand why a lot of people, you know,

think fucking like, where's this going to go?

But I think you should in an honest and really open, emotionally vulnerable way, give that kind of ultimatum.

It's kind of saying, if things don't change, I cannot continue in this.

It's not a threat.

I mean, he might want to take it as a threat, take it how you want to take it.

But the truth is I can't do this anymore.

I cannot do this anymore.

So if you don't acknowledge it or if you don't take it seriously or if we don't see eye to eye, that's fair.

But it's not fair for me to stay in a relationship where I know not only am I not being emotionally fulfilled but I know it's going to get worse and worse and I'm just going to resent you.

And worse than resenting your partner is resenting yourself for staying when you know you should have maybe left or staying when you know you should have done something to like really make sure that you've, you know, left every single stone unturned.