Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

So it's a vicious circle.

If you then start kind of forcing yourself out of your shell and think, I'm going to focus on giving in this regard or doing this, I'm going to start to...

whatever, feel more connected to this.

You know, I'll start volunteering at the pound and walking the dogs and doing things, just doing things for animals, people, things outside of you.

You will start to get outside of this vicious cycle inside your own head, step outside of that and start to feel more connected.

Okay.

So initially it might not be easy, but it's absolutely incredible what you can gain from it.

The second thing, number two, is to put things into perspective.

So often we will get our self-worth from what other people determine our self-worth is.

So that's kind of like...

If we have really good people around us who are always saying good things about us, who are always like building us up, we're going to, okay, I feel great.

I feel really, really good.

If we're around people that are always like trying to pull us down or being mean to us, then we're not going to feel as worthy.

We're going to feel like really bad about ourselves.

And if you're someone that really generates your sense of self and your validation from people around you, then you're going to be easily influenced and it's going to be a bit of a rollercoaster.

I feel really good this

day because I had a great thing said to me and then I feel terrible this day because this person looked at me in a bad way and made a snappy remark or someone yelled at me because I made an accident or whatever, right?

So I always say, try and put things into perspective because if you're generating your self-worth from other people, it can be very, very damaging when you have a few negative interactions in a row with people.

So what you see from your interaction with someone is just a slither of what's going on in their head.

And if you look at how someone treats you and they treat you poorly that way, it could set off your day.