Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

And for the rest of the day, you're in your head and you got like terrible anxiety because you're like, I feel shit.

I've done this wrong.

No one likes me.

Everyone fucking thinks I'm an idiot.

And you just start spiraling because someone hasn't treated you well or someone said something to you or your friends were friends, quote unquote, people were like,

laughing and it felt like they were laughing behind your back because they weren't including you in it and now you're in your head and you don't know what to do.

So when things like that happen, I always say put it into perspective.

Keep in mind that while something might have offended you, while someone might have snapped at you,

You are just ultimately one facet of that person's entire life.

Someone might have been having a really bad day and you just happen to be at the wrong place at the wrong time and they snap at you and say something awful, but it's just a reflection of what's going on in their head.

Someone might be really intimidated by you and not that it justifies it, but they're

They might then react in a way that makes you feel like, oh, wow, I was just trying to be nice and they've fully just shut me down.

And now what have I done wrong?

So I always say when people react negatively to you, always pause and put it into perspective and think, I'm just one slither of what's going on in their day.

There might be a lot more that's happening in their day that is causing this kind of behavior and this kind of reaction.

I'm going to put it into perspective.

Okay.

So even if someone says something that's not very nice to you, you might think this statement is coming from this person either being frustrated or maybe they're insecure or maybe they're really annoyed and they've just lashed out or maybe they're fearful of losing someone or they're jealous or they're just a plain asshole, can't relate, so I'm not offended.

So when you attribute people's

mean or nasty actions to something outside of you, then it hurts a lot less and you're not thinking that has determined my worth.