Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

So if you're open to all of those things and you've really thought about every single scenario, then I recommend you reach out to them.

But there's going to be an opportunity if you reach out that you're going to hear something you might not want to hear, that they're going to tell you something about your behavior that maybe you're not ready to hear.

Are you okay with that is what you have to sit with.

So ponder those things and hopefully you'll be able to decide, okay.

But if you're like, no, I don't want to message them.

I refuse to reach out.

Then what I would do, I would really manage my expectations and I will not expect a message from any one of those three people on my birthday.

And that is the first step to not feeling let down.

on your birthday and also plan something to look forward to on your birthday with people that you actually want to spend time with.

Cause the last thing you want to do is have a day where you're like checking your phone, checking your phone, checking your Instagram, checking, baiting people that might know you by putting up a story.

It's my birthday.

So you don't forget.

And no, we're not doing that shit.

We are not doing that shit.

You actually want to enjoy the day.

Okay.

So you either lower your expectations dramatically or you take action and you reach out.

Hopefully that helps.

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Yeah, and look, I've seen many, many friendships resurrect from the dead.