Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

And hopefully you can learn from it and take something from it.

But what I don't want you to do is sit there wallowing, thinking you're never going to recover.

One of the things that I hated the most when I went through that crazy heartbreak is people saying to me, you'll get over it, you'll get better.

And I used to think, you don't understand the pain I'm in.

You obviously don't.

Because if you think I'll get over it, I'm never going to get over it.

And I would just be like, I just want him to come back.

That's all I want.

Like that was the state that I was in.

But instead, what I should have been doing is I should have been telling myself the really hard shit I didn't want to hear.

I should have been burning that bridge between me and him and thinking it will never come back.

And I should have started being kinder to myself and my time and thinking, you know what, I need to start grieving and healing now.

I need to know that it's over and I don't need closure from him anymore.

I don't want you to ever think, I just wish I had an answer.

I just wish.

The answer is he didn't want a future with you.

It fucking sucks that he didn't want to discuss that with you and work through it.

But that's the conclusion he came to.

And at the end of the day, no matter how much we love someone, we're not inside their head.

We don't know how they're operating.