Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

It was whatever.

We don't know what was going on in their head.

Okay.

And we can call them an asshole.

They could have been a good person.

Who cares?

Who cares what character they had at the end of the day?

They didn't want to be with you.

And that is the most painful part about it.

But once you can acknowledge they didn't want to be with me, they did not want a future with me, then you can start to wrap your head around what makes a good partner.

Because you can sit here and be devastated and sad and rightly so, especially as you're processing these feelings and emotions.

It's like, of course you're going to be and they're real feelings and you need to honor them and feel them.

But then at what point are you going to start telling yourself, you know what, someone's only the actual love of my life if they love me back.

Otherwise, they're not the love of my life.

I can love them deeply.

I can have had like a crazy good few years with them.

But if they don't love me back, if they don't respect me in a way where they want to work through it,

I don't even know if respect is the right word, but if they don't even want the possibility of working through it, that is all the answer you're ever going to need.

You don't need any more information.

Sometimes people are in your life for a short period of time, for a couple of years or a couple of months, and that's it.