Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

That is how you evolve together.

So if you've got one person who isn't quite there,

and one person who is at the very least you need to be able to communicate that and say okay we both are working towards a common goal the issue here is that he doesn't seem to acknowledge it as an issue in the first place and therefore given that he can't acknowledge it as an issue doesn't seem to agree like you said in one ear out the other then there's no chance in hell that he would be willing to change because it's not an issue for him he doesn't recognize it as being a problem

And especially, and you really know this when people say, oh, it's just that I'm wired that way, it's whatever.

That's him saying, I'm not willing to change.

I will not change.

If I say, oh, it's just the way I'm wired, I'm resigning myself to say, well, that's just who I am.

Take it or leave it.

Kind of take it or leave it.

So...

You've got to ask yourself a whole bunch of questions.

Ultimately, obviously, only you can make this decision.

I can't tell you exactly what you should do.

But the more questions you ask yourself, the more clarity you're going to get on the direction that you want to go.

So one thing is, if he were to never change...

Ever.

Is that enough?

I think the answer is no, but ask yourself, if you were to never change, is that enough?

Could I be fulfilled enough in other areas of this relationship and pull together every other little bit and that be enough?

And I don't think the answer is yes, because otherwise I don't think you would have, you would have sent your voice message into me.