Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

So knowing that if he would never change, it wouldn't be enough, then you know that pulling the pin on this behavior is inevitable, okay?

So if you have the answer, no, I absolutely wouldn't stay if I knew he never changed.

So we know that breaking up with him is an absolute possibility.

So then you've got to look at what are the indications?

that things could change because so far he's shown zero.

He's also not really acknowledged it as an issue.

And then he's kind of been on the defensive saying, this is just me.

This is just how I'm wired.

So then you've got to ask yourself, have I been clear enough?

And I'm not saying I don't like the idea of giving an ultimatum in a relationship unless you fucking mean it.

Ultimatums should only ever be used if it is your last ditch effort to see if someone is willing to meet you

halfway because maybe they don't realize how serious it's impacting you to the extent where you're willing to leave the relationship.

That's the only time you bring in an ultimatum.

And it's not as a threat.

It's kind of saying, I hate to do this and I don't want to do this, but I cannot be in a relationship where there is no emotional intimacy.

I can't.

I want to have that with you, but if I can't have that with you, then this cannot go on.

So it's not saying if you don't fucking meet me in the

But you, it's basically saying that, but in a much, I feel honest in a much more honest way.

You're talking about it from your perspective.