Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

You're saying I've asked you to do these things.

And at the end of the day, I can't make you do them.

And if it's not in you or you don't acknowledge it, then we just do not say eye to eye.

But I do think it's, it's,

it is good to give your partner that last opportunity, that like where you really put everything on the table.

Because one thing is saying, listen, do you mind doing this?

Do you mind doing that?

And they're like, oh, not serious, not serious, not serious.

But if he knew that he would lose you and the relationship in

Do you think he'd be willing to change or do you think he'd be like, well, what a shame, I can't believe she's taking this so seriously and whatever, well, it's not meant to be, it's not meant to be, okay?

Because I just believe that if everything else is good with him except this one thing which is a deal breaker for you, then I would put all the cards on the table.

If you think, you know what, the fact that he isn't even willing to come to the table, I shouldn't have to ask, I'm kind of out, then there's your answer and that's okay too.

You might just know…

like deep down that given what you've seen, you just don't want to do like the pulling of the plug.

And a lot of people stay in a relationship because the thought of being single and starting over and trying again, it's daunting.

It's fucking daunting.

So I understand why a lot of people, you know,

think fucking like, where's this going to go?

But I think you should in an honest and really open, emotionally vulnerable way, give that kind of ultimatum.

It's kind of saying, if things don't change, I cannot continue in this.