Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

You could never say that because you know that this individual, if you were to ever try and correct their behavior, they would go nuts.

That would blow up and it would ruin the day for everyone, okay?

This is emotional blackmail, obviously.

They are willing to cause a scene at any time due to the fact that they just have a deficiency in any kind of scruples or moral compass, okay?

So people that are willing to cause a scene just to manipulate other people are

huge red flag, huge fucking red flag.

Okay.

And not, it's not just you who sees it.

Everyone else who is like privy to that is exposed to that and sees it too.

So that's a big, big, big common one with family narcissists.

They will very often do something like that.

Number 12, they treat you horribly, but when you try and step away, you are instantly accused of quote unquote, tearing the family apart.

You

So the onus is on you, on you and only you to keep the family together.

They can behave however they fucking want to behave.

But the moment you do something for yourself, no, no, no, no, you're tearing the family apart, okay?

And they will play the victim to the outside world, accusing you of being at fault, accusing you of it all going to shit.

So a lot of people stay in these dynamics.

And this also happens in romantic relationships.

They will treat you like an absolute dog.