Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

And I think it's unfortunately just a bit of, it's a bit of everyone's nature, not everyone, but most people do fall into that, the excitement of the honeymoon phase of a relationship and it makes them, again, not everyone, but many people, it makes them kind of abandon their friends for like a bit of a chunk of time.

Now, there are many people

who she's going to fall into one of two categories.

She's either one of those people that once they find a partner, no friendship is as important anymore.

And that's just who they are and it is what it is.

And that is a shame.

And then your friendship has changed forever.

But there are many people that go through this hectic honeymoon phase

And they're so embedded and excited and, oh, my God, everything's like, oh, my God, they're in this bubble, this fucking bubble.

But then eventually they find that they kind of recalibrate and find that balance and normality in life again and then they start picking up their social, you know, hangouts and all of that.

So I think as a good friend, I think it's nice to allow your friend a couple of months of grace when they just enter a relationship because you're like –

you're excited you're pumped you're in love you're riding this wave you're in this bubble the first like 90 day love bubble kind of thing right and then things start to hopefully calm down and still like i mean you're still in love but like you you know you you float back down to earth and you find a bit of normality and you have your your social circles again so i would 100 address it and it i would i would actually write it in a message like or like

I was going to say an email.

Imagine sending your fucking friend an email like, hello, title, the grace period has ended.

You now have to be my friend again.

No, don't do that.

Send a text message, but tell her how you feel.

And you want to kind of do it like a bit of a shit sandwich situation.

Like,

start with something really nice, then tell her what she needs to hear and then end with something really nice.