Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

But I want you to just pay attention more to your actual behaviors and where are things going well for you and where are things not going well for you.

A lot of the time you will see people get into these really like hot, heavy, intense relationships.

And I'm talking about friendships as well here.

I'm not just talking about relationships.

...romantic.

But then they fizzle out really fucking quickly... ...almost as quickly as they started.

There is...I'm going to butcher it so I'm not going to bother saying it... ...but my mum always says a saying about like...it's in Spanish.

And it's like if something starts with fury it ends with fury.

Along those lines.

Don't fucking quote me on that.

But it's a saying like that.

And a lot of relationships are like if it starts really hot and fucking heavy... ...it's going to end in the same like intense way...

I find it – I don't want to call it a toxic trait but I think it's something that needs to be – you need to be made aware of because it can come across as a little bit –

it's unhealthy in the sense that we ignore a lot of aspects about that relationship.

It feels so real because we're getting what we want.

I give you all my attention.

I give you all my energy.

I might not be trying to hurt your feelings or trying to take you for a ride.

I might be someone who's really warm and really charismatic and really...

And so because this person might not even be like that normally, but you're giving them all the attention, all the love.