Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

So they're mirroring this back being like, whoa, this friendship's unbelievable or this relationship.

I've never had so much love attention.

You're like so quick to reply with a text.

Let's do this spontaneous fun thing.

But if you can't maintain a longevity, if there's no longevity to that,

What is that saying?

It's saying that you're doing it to get some like a quick hit, a quick fix out of it.

Why can't this thing last?

Is it because it's the thrill of the catch that makes it like it's the novelty that you're addicted to?

Is it the actual individual?

Because if you say you're not sad when these relationships, friendships or romantic relationships end, it means that you're chasing the novelty of the attention, okay, of this, you know, validation.

And you might say, well, I don't feel like I'm seeking validation from outside people.

Well, why can't you have just a slow burn of a friendship or a slow burn of a relationship?

And I can't answer that for you.

You've got to ask, why is that?

Do I have long-term friendships?

How many long-term friendships do you have where it isn't that dynamic?

And how healthy are they?

It's really important to start really doing a bit of the... I know you say you're self-aware but look at... ...like do a bit of an inventory on like what are my current relationships like?

Why do I lean into this, you know... ...am I trying to manipulate people?