Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

I might not think... ...because maybe you are manipulating people and you don't realise it.

Maybe you're manipulating people because you want to feel... ...this validation within the relationship.

And if it's a no to all the things I'm saying... ...if you're saying love you Alexis but you're wrong about all these things... ...you are wrong...

Then ask yourself, why is it that after a few months it ends and I don't feel sad?

It means that you didn't really care about that relationship.

So that relationship served a different purpose.

And if you're saying, no, Alexis, I don't need the validation.

I don't do it for validation.

I validate myself.

Fine.

But what was it serving you?

Why did you do that?

Because it's not limerence if it's a real deep connection.

It is limerence if you're telling yourself it's a deep connection, but it's not a deep connection.

Is it just seemingly deep because you've got so much time that you spend together because it's so intense.

But in reality, when you're

really need to be there for each other you're not why do these relationships fall apart does one one bad conversation one thing that pissed you off is it enough to cut them off because then that's not a deep connection if you can cut someone off with like in a blink of an eye that's not a deep connection that's surface level intense so I just want you to be I don't want you to continue to analyze analyze analyze but I just want you to start being have a deeper level of what self-awareness is for you

and say how much of what Alexis is saying is actually rings true, how much of it is just total bullshit.

Maybe I didn't explain myself, but be willing to ask yourself the hard questions and be willing to be vulnerable enough to say, yeah, that might be the case or yeah, that might.

But the thing that really rings through as like a bit of an alarm bell is the fact that you say that it's not sad when it ends.