Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

And they're so embedded and excited and, oh, my God, everything's like, oh, my God, they're in this bubble, this fucking bubble.

But then eventually they find that they kind of recalibrate and find that balance and normality in life again and then they start picking up their social, you know, hangouts and all of that.

So I think as a good friend, I think it's nice to allow your friend a couple of months of grace when they just enter a relationship because you're like –

you're excited you're pumped you're in love you're riding this wave you're in this bubble the first like 90 day love bubble kind of thing right and then things start to hopefully calm down and still like i mean you're still in love but like you you know you you float back down to earth and you find a bit of normality and you have your your social circles again so i would 100 address it and it i would i would actually write it in a message like or like

I was going to say an email.

Imagine sending your fucking friend an email like, hello, title, the grace period has ended.

You now have to be my friend again.

No, don't do that.

Send a text message, but tell her how you feel.

And you want to kind of do it like a bit of a shit sandwich situation.

Like,

start with something really nice, then tell her what she needs to hear and then end with something really nice.

So start saying, hey babe, I really am denied about writing this text message because I value our friendship so much and this is only coming from a place of just adoring what we have as friendships and not wanting to lose it.

So be mindful as you read this.

So I would launch it like that.

And then I would say,

And genuinely, I love that you're in a relationship.

I love that you're in love.

It makes me like, nothing makes me happier than seeing my friends happy.

But I've noticed that I'm the only one reaching out to you.