Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

Hard work, needing grit, tenacity, being put under pressure, working under pressure.

There is nothing wrong with that.

And I'm not saying running away from that, but we have to know the difference.

And that, in my opinion, is where peace of mind comes from.

And it comes from ultimately how you feel as an individual when no one else is around.

How are you validating yourself?

When you start to realize what's important and what's not important, you start to learn how to begin to validate yourself.

It's very easy to get caught up in the bullshit if that is what is in your awareness 24-7.

If you're always, let's say you're stuck in this friendship group, for an example.

And you're going round and round and round.

The dramas that exist in that friendship group can seem life or death.

And I'm not trying to be dramatic, but it can.

It can seem like, oh my God, if they don't accept me or if they, I'll die, I'll die, I'll die.

So I have to put up with this crazy bitchiness and drama and they didn't talk to me and they didn't mess with me.

And it consumes your life.

But if you were to zoom all the way out and if you were to maybe get a job offer in a completely different country or city and move and then you have all these experiences that expand if you were, you looked back at that really toxic friendship circle, you'd laugh.

I'm telling you, you would laugh because you'd be like, wow, perspective is everything.

And I was telling myself that that's what mattered and that's where my, what I was worth, where my time, my energy, my emotions, everything was being funneled into this kind of drama.

Now I realize that nothing is worth more than my peace of mind.

So now that I've zoomed out, I realize that I'd actually rather be alone than entertain this shit.