Ali Abdaal

So the quickest way I found to develop relationships is to help other people without the attachment to getting anything in return. And it's scalable and it's very tough to do that over time because most people want something and you have to help other people thinking this person may never be able to help me with anything ever again. And I just have to be okay with that.

And I'm not talking about designing websites for free for everybody who asks. I'm talking about making introductions to other people who can help them. That's the only way this is scalable. So let's say that you're like, hey, I want some interesting podcast guests when I come to California.

And I'm not talking about designing websites for free for everybody who asks. I'm talking about making introductions to other people who can help them. That's the only way this is scalable. So let's say that you're like, hey, I want some interesting podcast guests when I come to California.

And I'm not talking about designing websites for free for everybody who asks. I'm talking about making introductions to other people who can help them. That's the only way this is scalable. So let's say that you're like, hey, I want some interesting podcast guests when I come to California.

I don't have to book those guests for you, but what I would do is introduce you to people that live near me and in the cities where you're going that I think are interesting, that I think would also say yes to doing your podcast, and I can just do that kind of thing, right? And I can do that for somebody who's looking for a job in a field.

I don't have to book those guests for you, but what I would do is introduce you to people that live near me and in the cities where you're going that I think are interesting, that I think would also say yes to doing your podcast, and I can just do that kind of thing, right? And I can do that for somebody who's looking for a job in a field.

I don't have to book those guests for you, but what I would do is introduce you to people that live near me and in the cities where you're going that I think are interesting, that I think would also say yes to doing your podcast, and I can just do that kind of thing, right? And I can do that for somebody who's looking for a job in a field.

I might know somebody who runs a business in that area, and I can ask them for advice, or I could say, would you hire this person as an intern? They're actually pretty cool, if I can vouch for them. I do that kind of stuff every single day. It's usually done by email.

I might know somebody who runs a business in that area, and I can ask them for advice, or I could say, would you hire this person as an intern? They're actually pretty cool, if I can vouch for them. I do that kind of stuff every single day. It's usually done by email.

I might know somebody who runs a business in that area, and I can ask them for advice, or I could say, would you hire this person as an intern? They're actually pretty cool, if I can vouch for them. I do that kind of stuff every single day. It's usually done by email.

The difference is what I hear from, and I thought this is not rocket science, but what I hear from other folks when I give this advice is they'll go, yeah, I know people have asked me for this, but I just kind of never responded. I'm thinking, what a missed opportunity this is. But yeah, but I'm really busy and I get a lot of email. I believe you.

The difference is what I hear from, and I thought this is not rocket science, but what I hear from other folks when I give this advice is they'll go, yeah, I know people have asked me for this, but I just kind of never responded. I'm thinking, what a missed opportunity this is. But yeah, but I'm really busy and I get a lot of email. I believe you.

The difference is what I hear from, and I thought this is not rocket science, but what I hear from other folks when I give this advice is they'll go, yeah, I know people have asked me for this, but I just kind of never responded. I'm thinking, what a missed opportunity this is. But yeah, but I'm really busy and I get a lot of email. I believe you.

However, I'm pretty sure that you don't get more email than I do. It's not a contest, but you and I get a lot of email, I'm sure. I will help any random person that reaches out to me if I can with advice or with an introduction. And that has earned a crap load of social capital and goodwill. Those people I normally assume will never actually be able to do anything for me in return.

However, I'm pretty sure that you don't get more email than I do. It's not a contest, but you and I get a lot of email, I'm sure. I will help any random person that reaches out to me if I can with advice or with an introduction. And that has earned a crap load of social capital and goodwill. Those people I normally assume will never actually be able to do anything for me in return.

However, I'm pretty sure that you don't get more email than I do. It's not a contest, but you and I get a lot of email, I'm sure. I will help any random person that reaches out to me if I can with advice or with an introduction. And that has earned a crap load of social capital and goodwill. Those people I normally assume will never actually be able to do anything for me in return.

However, I'm wrong at least 1% of the time. And that 1% of the time turns out to be kind of a big deal. I helped somebody the other day with something completely insignificant, in my opinion. And he goes, let me know if you ever need a guest for your podcast. I thought he was talking about himself. I was like, thanks. I appreciate that.

However, I'm wrong at least 1% of the time. And that 1% of the time turns out to be kind of a big deal. I helped somebody the other day with something completely insignificant, in my opinion. And he goes, let me know if you ever need a guest for your podcast. I thought he was talking about himself. I was like, thanks. I appreciate that.

However, I'm wrong at least 1% of the time. And that 1% of the time turns out to be kind of a big deal. I helped somebody the other day with something completely insignificant, in my opinion. And he goes, let me know if you ever need a guest for your podcast. I thought he was talking about himself. I was like, thanks. I appreciate that.

And he's like, yeah, because I'm working with A-list celebrity on a project called And I was like, really? That person would be amazing. And he goes, oh, yeah, I'm literally seeing him tomorrow. I bet you he would do your podcast. I'm going to ask him. And that blew my mind because this person was asking me to introduce them to my web designer. So I earned my web designer a referral.