Alice Wilder

As a reformed job hopper, I'm okay to stay for two years until it's more acceptable to leave.

Should I push back alone?

Signed, ready for a raise.

After the break, how do I tell my coworker, who I see three times a week, that she cannot have a copy of my house key?

I've been working on my team for about a year and a half and am much younger than my coworkers.

They've all worked together for nine plus years while I'm new to the team.

It feels like no matter what I do, the team doesn't consider me to be, well, part of the team.

I was also told by other team members that they had not wanted to hire me, but I had preferred an internal candidate who was working in another position in the organization.

Signed, The Sore Thumb.

But they also have those insecurities.

Yeah, we're all insecure.

Can I offer an idea for this?

Oh, yeah.

What if this person, like, found their least unfriendly co-worker and, like, asked them out for coffee or lunch and, like, sometimes you need a bridge person to, like, kind of...

give you like the access kind of vouch for you or like, you know, and, and having lunch with someone, it could just be a normal lunch, but you could also be like, Hey, I've been feeling kind of like knotted on the joke at work.

Is this something you experienced when you started?

Or I think like, if you can convey it a little bit of how you've been struggling, uh,

Maybe I'm being an optimist, but I'm like, maybe they'll be like, oh, I didn't even realize.

Like, I think when you've been in a social group for so long and that's just your like default setting, they might be like, oh, wow, we have been kind of leaving this person out.

Like, maybe I should make more of an effort.