Alicia Keys

We've seen our parents experience it in different ways. We've seen our friends experience it. go through it in different ways, and therefore that becomes the normal for us. And when we kind of crave it, we become addicted to it, even without knowing it.

We've seen our parents experience it in different ways. We've seen our friends experience it. go through it in different ways, and therefore that becomes the normal for us. And when we kind of crave it, we become addicted to it, even without knowing it.

So I think that practice of like that perhaps is one of the opening when you said, how did you get to a place where you could find yourself in a place where you are, I think part of that practice really did have to come to spending time with myself. And I made every excuse why I couldn't spend time with my kids. I can't do it. My kids, you know, I can't leave them by themselves.

So I think that practice of like that perhaps is one of the opening when you said, how did you get to a place where you could find yourself in a place where you are, I think part of that practice really did have to come to spending time with myself. And I made every excuse why I couldn't spend time with my kids. I can't do it. My kids, you know, I can't leave them by themselves.

I can't do it because I got to, you know, who else is going to do? I got to feed the family. You know, we got to do. And they all seem valid. Makes sense to me. Yeah, that's true. Your kids, you should probably make sure your kids are good. And if I don't make sure I'm good, How can I make sure anybody is good ever? And so spending time with myself was, I fought against it so much.

I can't do it because I got to, you know, who else is going to do? I got to feed the family. You know, we got to do. And they all seem valid. Makes sense to me. Yeah, that's true. Your kids, you should probably make sure your kids are good. And if I don't make sure I'm good, How can I make sure anybody is good ever? And so spending time with myself was, I fought against it so much.

But when I started to do it, I realized that I was more powerful than I'd ever been. And I was faster. I was able to do things quicker and more efficiently because I wasn't so cloudy, you know? And that was cool. That was cool. When you start to feel that way, you're like, oh, I don't have to spend so much time doing whatever action because I actually know what I want to do. And I'm decisive.

But when I started to do it, I realized that I was more powerful than I'd ever been. And I was faster. I was able to do things quicker and more efficiently because I wasn't so cloudy, you know? And that was cool. That was cool. When you start to feel that way, you're like, oh, I don't have to spend so much time doing whatever action because I actually know what I want to do. And I'm decisive.

Man, I felt so good. I had never felt decisive before in my life. I'd never felt clear without thousands of other opinions. I never felt like my own self. So that was big. But spending time with myself was, I believe, one of the keys to that.

Man, I felt so good. I had never felt decisive before in my life. I'd never felt clear without thousands of other opinions. I never felt like my own self. So that was big. But spending time with myself was, I believe, one of the keys to that.

Fix my shirt real quick. The gifts, one of the gifts that I got from my mother, I would say, is her strength. I feel like I really bore witness to a woman who was like, not to be, like she just really, and I don't know if she wore that as an armor, you know, or what that was, but I found her to be quite like, like straight and clear and strong. And there was kind of no getting around it.

Fix my shirt real quick. The gifts, one of the gifts that I got from my mother, I would say, is her strength. I feel like I really bore witness to a woman who was like, not to be, like she just really, and I don't know if she wore that as an armor, you know, or what that was, but I found her to be quite like, like straight and clear and strong. And there was kind of no getting around it.

And you kind of just knew, okay, this is what it is. And I feel like I really received a lot from that as a woman, as a young woman, as a woman who would have to be at the forefront of her own life and career and really have to be in my space of power, be around a lot of people that want to take your power, steal your light, lead you in the wrong spaces.

And you kind of just knew, okay, this is what it is. And I feel like I really received a lot from that as a woman, as a young woman, as a woman who would have to be at the forefront of her own life and career and really have to be in my space of power, be around a lot of people that want to take your power, steal your light, lead you in the wrong spaces.

I had to kind of be in my strength and I did receive that from her. What I received from my father was, I think I also received a level of self-determination. Because I had a unique relationship. My mother and my father were not married or together. And so, one, I had to learn that that's actually not unique or different. You know, there's not some kind of like...

I had to kind of be in my strength and I did receive that from her. What I received from my father was, I think I also received a level of self-determination. Because I had a unique relationship. My mother and my father were not married or together. And so, one, I had to learn that that's actually not unique or different. You know, there's not some kind of like...

Family structure, that's like the main one. I think we get painted that picture so much and then we feel uncomfortable that ours doesn't look like that. But so I had to kind of know who I was also. even in our relationship. And so I got a sense of self as well, sense of self. The gap from the sense of self that I received from my father was probably maybe some feelings of not being worthy.

Family structure, that's like the main one. I think we get painted that picture so much and then we feel uncomfortable that ours doesn't look like that. But so I had to kind of know who I was also. even in our relationship. And so I got a sense of self as well, sense of self. The gap from the sense of self that I received from my father was probably maybe some feelings of not being worthy.

So I received some of that and I had to restructure my brain around. And from my mother, I think I got a sense of fixing. I had to fix everything because in a lot of ways, if she was strong and angry, I had to be like soft and accommodating and kind of fix the situation. And so I think I received some of that, which I also had to rewire. No, no, no. I can't fix everything. I just can't.

So I received some of that and I had to restructure my brain around. And from my mother, I think I got a sense of fixing. I had to fix everything because in a lot of ways, if she was strong and angry, I had to be like soft and accommodating and kind of fix the situation. And so I think I received some of that, which I also had to rewire. No, no, no. I can't fix everything. I just can't.