Alison Cheperdak

And I was saying like, that's fine, but you should know that that's a more casual posture.

So instead you could clasp your hands in front of you, something like that.

A question that comes up a lot is,

around like opening doors and things like that and what I say for that is opening a door for someone is a way that you show respect so you can do that for anyone and if you want to show that respect to a woman great if you want to show that respect to a client to a colleague to a business partner that's what you're doing when you open a door for someone are there women who don't want a door to be open for them yes but I think it's a relatively small perhaps exceedingly vocal but I think it's a relatively small percentage of women that feel that way

Not communicating enough.

Like I think people waste time.

If we're talking with a relationship phase, I think people waste time not being clear about what they want.

And I think the sooner clarity is kind in so many things, like whether you're RSVPing to something, whether you're telling someone how to pronounce your name, there's so many things.

Clarity is kind.

And in relationships, I think people are afraid to like scare people off by talking about certain topics too soon.

And it's not about, I think people should be less afraid of talking about things too soon.

And it should be more about talking about them in the right way.

Like you don't want your first, second, third date to feel like an interrogation.

But if there's certain things that are really important to you, bring it up.

You can do it in a soft way.

Like, what are you doing this weekend?

whether you know what they tell you is probably going to be pretty illuminating in terms of what their priorities are asking about their family again very enlightening so don't be afraid to talk about the things that are important to you early because we only have so much time and you might as well respect your own time while you're dating

I'm definitely seeing that.

And

One of the most common things that I, when I'm brought in to speak at organizations, it's often to younger employees, interns, first-year associates, people who are, they could be millennial, Gen Z, Gen Alpha, and they're digital natives and they may not be aware.