Alison Cheperdak

I would start with acknowledging that so often the people who are closest to us can be taken for granted and they get what's left of us rather than the best of us.

So try to remember that like your parents, your significant other, your siblings, all of these people deserve your best as well, even though they're going to see you in the good, the bad and the ugly because you're so close with them.

And then also if there's,

things that you need to talk about that are difficult, try to pick the time.

So be really considerate.

Don't pick late at night when everybody's tired.

Pick a good time or even say, this is something that I really want to talk about.

When would be a good time?

And try to focus on understanding their perspective, being calm in your demeanor, making them feel heard, actually hearing them out, and sticking to your word.

And that goes for everything.

Like so often, I think it's very easy for especially people pleasers to say things that they think are polite, but actually make them come across as like flaky or fake if they actually don't carry through.

So like don't say things that you can't actually follow up or follow through with.

Like don't tell everybody in the world that you'd love to get coffee with them if you don't have the capacity to go to coffee with every single person that you meet, that kind of a thing.

Well, thank you so much.

My book is called, was it something I said everyday etiquette to avoid awkward moments in relationships, work and life.

And it is available on March 17th.

So St.

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It's also in an audio book form.

And I read the entire audio book myself.