Alison Wood Brooks

And it is going to be hard to force yourself to ask follow-up questions if you're not interested anymore.

And that's okay.

But knowing that about yourself means you can lean into your strengths and you can constantly sort of work on your weaknesses.

That's what we all need to do, no matter where our strengths and weaknesses come from.

What a question.

How do we get the spark back in?

How do we do something?

And I like this question.

It's not saying like, not only how do we get the spark back into our relationship, but is there a routine?

Is there a thing we could do regularly that helps to nudge us to think differently or converse differently?

Of course, there are lots of ideas that you could try.

But ultimately, I think it comes down to this idea of forethought, right?

So before you are together with each other, I think reflecting a little bit about what are some topics that will be exciting and interesting to my partner?

What do they want to talk about?

What do I have left to discover about them?

What do they have left to discover about me?

Just a little, 30 seconds of forethought before you see them can go a really long way in actually raising those interesting topics once you're together.

In a way,

We're often the least interested and the least kind to the people that we care about the most because we're just used to being around them.

So just a tiny little nudge to yourself of reflecting, hey, what do they care about?